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In Response to Re: engagement party question:sheeeeesh lol well how do you throw an engagement party if no one wants to pay for it since they are already paying for a ton of stuff? I'm not fishing for gifts at all I just wanted to have a party so both families can mingle and have all the bridal party to mingle. What do you call it, a meet and greet? So how would you handle that then? Not have one? Or what do you call it on the invite? Come mix and mingle with the families? lol. I just don't know how to word it Or just forget it and call it a day.
Posted by cusi229You don't need to completely forget the idea. You just don't need to call it an engagement party. Send e-vites saying you want to have everyone over for dinner and/or drinks. It doesn't at all need to be a formal invite.An e-party isn't a right, and nobody is entitled to have one. I don't think you are acting entitled, but your first line of this post sounds entitled. If nobody offers to throw you an actual engagement party, you just don't have one.
In Response to Re: engagement party question:In Response to Re: engagement party question : So, actually, someone wrote in to last week's Social Qs in the NYT about a situation in which the letterwriter hosted an engagement party (in her home), people brought bottles of wine as gifts, and the host was miffed that the couple took the wine, as the host thought the wine was a host gift. The Social Qs columnist agreed with the letterwriter. I don't agree, but I haven't been to e-parties, either, so I don't know really, but I was curious as to what the general consensus was.
Posted by jessicabessicaSo this letterwriter hosted an e-party for another couple in her home, and was mad that the engaged couple who the party was for took the gifts? This one is tough. If I'm invited to a party or a dinner at someone's house, we always bring a bottle of wine or vodka or something, so I understand thinking it's a hostess gift. But when I go to a bridal shower or wedding I don't bring a gift for the host, just a gift for who the party is honoring. So at en e-party I would assume the wine was for the engaged couple.
In Response to Asking parents to help pay for wedding:
Yes it would be very rude. They already told you they don't want to help pay for your wedding. Paying for your dress or flowers would be exactly that. While I think their reasoning is shitty, its their choice to make and they already told you how they feel.My parents are pretty well off, but they don't want to help pay for my wedding because, when they got married, they had to pay for their own(same reasoning for why they couldn't pay for my college). My FI and I aren't really upset about it or anything and are planning to do it ourselves, but we don't make a whole lot of money right now and I was wondering if it would be rude to ask my parents if they could help with some things, like pay for my dress or cover the flowers or something. What do you think?
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In any school that i've taught, there was usually a designated "peanut free" classroom for each grade. If you had a peanut allergy you went into that class, and other students' parents signed forms saying they would follow the strict no peanut products guidelines. If you didn't want to follow it, your kids was put into another class.I think having to agree to it is fine. But really, if I was told I couldn't bring in peanuts and I hadn't signed up for it, I wouldn't really care, unless my kids refused to eat anything but PB&J. Peanut allergies are no joke, so I completely understand taking extra precautions.