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These people do exist!

So all the time on here I read about people who have coworkers and acquaintances who try to invite themselves to the wedding, and every time I am just appalled and so surprised that there are people out there who do that. I didn't think y'all were lying, but it is just unbelievable to me.  Well yesterday I was talking with my FI and he said that one of his coworkers, "Sally" from a different section of the office walked up to him  while he was on his lunch and without any previous conversation, asked when we wanted to meet with her about having her photograph our wedding. This was the very first time he had ever heard she was a "photographer", (they all work full time for a company that provides mental health services). Apparently another coworker that he works closely with told "Sally" that he proposed recently and "Sally" decided that she was the most logical choice, despite only talking to him a few times in the short few months he has worked there (his interaction with her section of the company is limited to once or twice a month).  I guess it really offended him that someone he didn't know would try to insert themselves into his personal life so he said we had already chosen a photographer and then walked away.  


I feel bad for ever doubting the many stories of crazy coworkers! 
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Re: These people do exist!

  • Welcome to our club!  ;)
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
  • Oh my!

    I had an acquaintance ask me if I wanted to "hire" him (for a free wedding meal and bar) to play his bagpipes at our wedding. That was awkward. Not that bagpipes aren't awesome, but they don't hold much relevance for our family and we wouldn't have it in our budget to pay him. 
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    edited October 2013
    Echoing the ladies above: Welcome!!! Enjoy!
  • I've sent STDs to two grad school friends. One actually had the audacity to say " I can't believe you didn't ask me to be a BM." Her family is huge. She's been in a ridiculous number of weddings since she was 5. You'd think she would have picked up on "what is not appropriate to say to the bride/groom"

    Side note: I just changed the subject and started exclaiming over a pair of shoes on sale.

  • I've sent STDs to two grad school friends. One actually had the audacity to say " I can't believe you didn't ask me to be a BM." Her family is huge. She's been in a ridiculous number of weddings since she was 5. You'd think she would have picked up on "what is not appropriate to say to the bride/groom"

    Side note: I just changed the subject and started exclaiming over a pair of shoes on sale.

    Holy cow! Some people...
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  • One of my coworkers went around for 2 weeks telling other coworkers that she was going to be my bridesmaid. I told her that I actually wasn't planning on inviting anybody from work. She stopped. Now she's going around saying that she's going to be my maid of honor. All I can do is smile and walk away.
  • I've also previously mentioned this one, bears repeating...

    A HS acquaintance of my Dad's  has kept in contact in the 52 years since graduation. Dad has regularly cut off and reestablished contact with her. She's one of those meddling "this is what's happening to my sister's next door neighbor's aunt's cousin's grandson's girlfriend's uncle" type poeple. She has an opinion on everything, must always be correct, and is generally two fries short of a happy meal. She was invited to Big Bro's wedding as she also happened to be his and SIL's landlord.

    On several occasions at the wedding, she mentioned something about attending my wedding in March. I kept changing the subject, bean dipping, and saying "we are just getting started planning." Later, she brought it up to my mother, who flat out told her "As far as I know, it's a small, immediate family wedding. Therefore, YOU ARE NOT INVITED" Go Mom!

    I had previously told my Dad that this woman and her husband were ABSOLUTELY NOT on the invite list. She's completely batcakes and I can't stand her. FI had heard stories- his jaw was hitting the floor after interacting with her. Dad has been warned that if he went behind my back and invited her, he would be escorting me up the aisle in a wheelchair, and that I would be the one putting him in said chair.

    Recently learned she has been CONTINUING to bring up "We'll be looking for our invitation!" in the few phone calls she's had with my Dad (he has not invited her, has not said anything implying wedding stuff to her). She still doesn't get it.

    I'm debating if she calls at Christmas and insists on talking to me, whether I should drop etiquette and yell that she's not invited repeatedly into the phone, or just lie and say we decided to elope the previous weekend and are already hitched.

    They exist, they walk among us, and they reproduce!

  • edited October 2013

    To chipmunk415-

    Well since your mom already told her she wouldn't be invited (yay mom!), what if you and/or your dad said, "oh, I thought Betty* already told you that it'll be a small wedding and unfortunately they're not able to invite you" or something like that? Wash, rinse, repeat.

    Mom's already done the heavy lifting, I'd ride her coat tails on this one!

     

    *for the purposes of this excercise I have named your mom Betty  :)

  • i still can't get over the title of your post. All I can think of is...
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  • To chipmunk415-

    Well since your mom already told her she wouldn't be invited (yay mom!), what if you and/or your dad said, "oh, I thought Betty* already told you that it'll be a small wedding and unfortunately they're not able to invite you" or something like that? Wash, rinse, repeat.

    Mom's already done the heavy lifting, I'd ride her coat tails on this one!

     

    *for the purposes of this excercise I have named your mom Betty  :)

    This. No need for any other advice on this one. What offthemarket915 said is the best response possible. love it. do this. Tell your dad this exactly for him to do the same.
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  • Unfortunately ladies, Dad is not socially adept at that kind of side stepping. I've been teaching him how to bean dip her.

    He has made a few jokes since Big Bro's wedding about inviting this person. I've given the death glare and offered to have this person and another crazycakes acquaintance of his move in with  him for a month while I take Mom on vacation. (He admits he can't stand EITHER of these women, yet he keeps contact with them. It's like a rubbernecker at a car crash, they can't stop looking!)

    My Mom seems to be the only woman who can put this other lady in her place. When Dad had quadruple bypass surgery around Christmas years ago, this woman offered to come "help." She has zero medical training. She informed my mom that Mom would be unable to take care of Dad sans Home Health Care nurses round the clock, like she needed when her husband had a kidney transplant. Mom went through the roof. As this woman knows well, my Mom was a Cardio/Thoracic Surgery Nurse for 15 years! She was running an ICU when my folks met! There's NO ONE better qualified to take care of my Dad and put up with him during this.

    Five years later, and this woman still doesn't get NO MEANS NO!

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