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ideas needed for close friend

Eak19Eak19 member
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Looking for ideas for a close friend that will not be a brides maid, other than a reader. Thanks so much.
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    manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    I think being a guest sounds like a perfect honor for her. 

    Don't give her a made up title. It will only make her feel like a second-string bridesmaid. 
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    Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    PDKH said:

    I think being a guest sounds like a perfect honor for her. 


    Don't give her a made up title. It will only make her feel like a second-string bridesmaid. 
    Seconded. May I ask why she can't be a bridesmaid?
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    NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    Eak19 said:
    Looking for ideas for a close friend that will not be a brides maid, other than a reader. Thanks so much.

    Ask her to get ready with you.
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    artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    NYCMercedes said:
    Eak19 said:
    Looking for ideas for a close friend that will not be a brides maid, other than a reader. Thanks so much.

    Ask her to get ready with you.
    This is a bad idea unless there are no bridesmaids. If there are, it will definitely make this woman feel like she's supposed to be some sort of understudy. Wedding party, reader, or guest are the only choices that will not make someone feel shitty.
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    itzMSitzMS member
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    artbyallie said:


    NYCMercedes said:


    Eak19 said:

    Looking for ideas for a close friend that will not be a brides maid, other than a reader.
    Thanks so much.


    Ask her to get ready with you.

    This is a bad idea unless there are no bridesmaids. If there are, it will definitely make this woman feel like she's supposed to be some sort of understudy. Wedding party, reader, or guest are the only choices that will not make someone feel shitty.

    Seconded. I'd much rather be a guest and get ready on my own time than play "Cinderella" to the bride and her bridesmaids.

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    annathy03annathy03 member
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    You could give her a wrist corsage and have her sit her in the front row with family. No need for a title.
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    delujm0delujm0 member
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    is she not a BM or reader because you asked her and she declined, or is she not a BM because "even sides" were more important to you than your friend standing next to you?

     

    BM, reader, or guest are your only options here.

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    lc07lc07 member
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    I asked my best friend from high school who was not a bridesmaid to be our witness and sign our marriage certificate instead of my maid of honor doing this. We have great photos of my husband and I right after our ceremony with her and our officiant and a friend of my husband's signing our license. It was a special moment for me and I'm glad that she participated in our wedding this way.

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    NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    Retraction. Ignore above.
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    Eak19Eak19 member
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    Love this. Thank you for this idea.
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