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Is this favor idea tacky/rude?

We are getting married 12/21, and our favors are little chocolate balls that are wrapped to look like ornaments. They have a string that allows them to be hung on a tree. I was planning to put them in individual boxes at each place, but it's looking like the budget won't allow for that. I'm now thinking about hanging them on a small Christmas tree that would be placed in the center of the gift table, but I'm concerned that it looks too gift grabby. Does this idea have a "you only get a favor if you give us a gift" vibe, or am I overthinking things?

Re: Is this favor idea tacky/rude?

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    I don't think it would look gift grabby (does the gift table have a sign that says "GIFTS HERE PLEASE!" :P), but I think guests might be confused about what they are for and should they be taking one.

    Any favour I have received has been sitting on top of my dinner plate (if the table is pre-set) or where my dinner plate would be placed. 
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    First of all, you're getting married on the anniversary of the day DH and I got engaged!

    I think those favours are adorable. Just put them on the plates, wrapped like ornaments but with the string on the top, and I think people will get the idea. I don think you need the tree; people will know what they are.
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    You don't need boxes. Have you looked into organza bags? You can get them on uline for pretty cheap.
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    You don't need boxes. Have you looked into organza bags? You can get them on uline for pretty cheap.
    Stuck in box. I like this idea. I don't think putting them on a tree at the gift table is bad or rude or tacky or gift grabby. But I think people might be confused. 
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    cellophane is even cheaper
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    Yep. Just get the clear cellophane bags and tie with a festive ribbon.
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    I was at a dec. wedding where ornaments on a tree were the favor. They just made sure the DJ announced it so everyone knew. It was fine, but I think some people forgot theirs. As for it being on the gift table I see no problem with that. In fact if you think about it it's kind of nice because instead of the gift table just being about gifts to you it's also about gifts to them! But I do think you might end up with more forgotten favors this way. So it's just up to you
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    Can you tie them to your escort cards?
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    Unless you have a DJ announce it I think it would be too confusing. I would just put one at every seat and call it a day :) you could always use mini trees as a centerpiece and put them on that at every table. Kills two birds with one stone.
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    Unless you have a DJ announce it I think it would be too confusing. I would just put one at every seat and call it a day :) you could always use mini trees as a centerpiece and put them on that at every table. Kills two birds with one stone.
    If you haven't bought centerpieces (and your venue doesn't provide them gratzi) I love this!

    Otherwise I'd wrap in cellophane and put at the seats.  I don't think it's gift grabby but I'd probably think it was decoration and not take one, and would be more likely to forget to get one after an announcement than if it was at my seat.
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    Rewind.. are you saying that you don't have the budget for one per guest or you don't have enough money for the wrapping? 
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    Rewind.. are you saying that you don't have the budget for one per guest or you don't have enough money for the wrapping? 
    She doesn't have enough money for the individualized boxes. She has one per guest.
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    I don't think it's gift-grabby, but if you want guests to take the ornaments home, they might not realize that they can do that.
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    I don't have money for individual boxes. Everyone will get a favor.

     

    I do already have centerpieces, but they're glass cookie jars shaped like Christmas trees, so that actually might work. I don't know that there are enough to fill them nicely, though.  Maybe  I can throw some candy canes or something in with them.

     

    I was planning to put a note next to the tree explaining, but I can still see how that might not work very well, since not everyone will be going to the gift table. Maybe I can do it on the program table, if I decide to go in this direction. We aren't having escort cards.

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    I think they would be cute on the tree, but agree to make sure it is announced throughout the night so people know it is OK to take them...and be cautious that some people may take more than 1! 
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    Putting them on a tree on the gift table isn't tacky or rude.
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    While your original idea isn't tacky or rude, I like the center piece idea, and using mini candy canes to make it look more full would be a cheap and cute thing too.  As others have sad, just make sure to make an announcement.
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    I like the tree, but I agree I might not know I was supposed to take one.
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    I've seen similar things done a couple times, although it's usually on the table beside the guest book and has a little notenext to it explaining they are the favours. I think beside the guest book works better because then everyone passes by it, regardless of whether they sent a gift before or were bringing one to the reception.
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