FI and his mom have been arguing about some wedding related stuff. We cleared the DW with them months ago, they were
excited about it, and it's suddenly a huge burden. His mom is a little
insecure and she tries to make it about money, but it isn't.
Yesterday
she emailed him some really nasty stuff about their family history,
blaming him for being a bad kid, calling him selfish and not wanting to
go at all because she will feel judged for not being as educated as my
parents. Mind you, two months ago she was bragging to her friends,
upgrading to a suite and very excited about making it a big to-do. As
it's getting closer, she is finding problems with everything and
blowing up at him. I know what she wants is for him to apologize (for
what, we really can't tell), tell her she's his favorite, and convince
her that if she weren't there, we wouldn't get married. He's not going
to do that.
I know this is one of those things I should stay out
of. I would love to. He's asked me for my input, and I've kept it short
and sweet, but he keeps asking. The truth is, if it were up to me, I'd
give her what she wants. All of that craziness. Just get her to the
wedding. His instinct is to continue the fight, which won't resolve
anything and could end with her boycotting the wedding. He says if she is
going to act this way that he doesn't want her there, but I know he
would be devastated if his parents didn't go. She makes the decisions for both of them, so if she doesn't go, neither does his dad. If he keeps asking me for my input, do I tell him to just give her what she wants? Is there anything at all that I can do without overstepping boundaries?