Question about MOH?

tamarar5

New to The Knot and I mostly lurk here and get the answers I'm looking for, but not sure about this one.  We are having a small, intimate wedding at the courthouse.  I asked my best friend to be a witness.  Does that make her my MOH? Should I get her flowers and a gift? Should my Fiance do the same for his Brother, the other one witnessing? What do you ladies think?

vk2204

You could get her a gift to say thank you for being your witness - that would be nice!

Maggie0829

You could call her your MOH if you wish.  Just because you are having a courthouse wedding does not mean that you can't have a MOH.

I would probably skip the flowers but I would get her a nice gift as a thank you.

AddieCake

I would definitely get a thank you gift. 

climbingsingle

Ditto on your can call her your MOH and getting her a gift sans flowers. 

itzMS

I love a nice bouquet of flowers. If she likes flowers and you want to get them, get them. No requirement though.

doeydo

Asking her to be a witness does not make her a MOH.  If you want to have her as one, you can.  Same with your FI's friend who will be a witness.  If you would like, you could give her a corsage and him a boutonniere, but it is not necessary.  

Jen4948

It would be nice of you to give her a thank-you gift.  Asking her to be a witness doesn't in and of itself make her your MOH or him your FI's BM, but you can certainly ask them.  Flowers are optional.

southernbelle0915

Her being there to witness the wedding doesn't "make" her your MOH. You can give her that title if you want, but it's not necessary. I would get her a thank you gift for doing this for you. Doesn't have to be big or fancy.

MyNameIsNot

Asking her to witness does not make her MOH.  You can ask her to be MOH if you want, but you don't have to.

I would take both her and FI's brother out to lunch/dinner/drinks after the ceremony.  

jdblnn

Agreed that I would do some kind of post-wedding celebration with her and FBIL (lunch, drinks...), and a thank you gift would be appropriate.  No need to go overboard.  

tamarar5

Thank you for all the replies! I appreciate the answers.  We are taking all of our guests out for dinner.  We are having only immediate family plus my best friend so its still a very small group.  I've already stressed with the restaurant that only my Fiance and I are to get the check because I suspect my parents will try to pay.  They are not in a position to do so.

As a further question, what type of gift would be appropriate? Like me she has jewelery allergies, so something sweet like a necklace is out of the question purely for cost (she can only wear pure gold or platinum).  When I've asked my friends, they always gave the WP some sort of jewelry.

KeptInStitches

What would you give her for her birthday? Is she into reading, perhaps something for her Kindle? A couple nice bottles of wine? Does she have a favorite sports team?

tamarar5

Oh wine! She might like that.

What do you think about a gift card and a mug to our favorite coffee shop? We're both kind of coffee fanatics.

KeptInStitches

Sounds like a lovely gift for her!