Hotel rooms for bridesmaids

Wigglesx2

I'm trying to figure out the hotel situation for my bridesmaids. 4 of 5 are from out of town. 2 are married, one with a child. Another is 18 and traveling with her parents. Last is single. The wedding is Saturday and the rehearsal dinner is Friday. Assuming the girls stay with me Friday night, do I need to provide hotel rooms for their families? For Saturday night, do I need to pay for a room for each of them? Thanks!

photokitty

You do not need to pay for/ provide a hotel for them for any of the nights. You should not demand they stay with you the night before, but are welcome to invite them to stay with you if they would like to. The single ones might be happy to stay with you to save money, the married and mother will probably want to stay with their family. It is a generous offer, but not necessary. 

GL!

annathy03

Nope.  If you can swing it that would be a really nice thing to do, but you're under no obligation to pay for their accommodations.  Also if they choose to stay with you Friday night that's fine, but don't make it seem mandatory to them.

itzMS

Please don't make them stay with you. Please.

Let everyone make their own arrangements.

If someone expresses a cost concern to you, at that point you can offer a rollaway bed in your room as an option for Friday night.

AddieCake

Why are you assuming they will stay with you?

syoun1nj

They should make their own arrangements for accommodations, but you should block rooms at a hotel with a hopefully discounted rate for them and your guests.

Some may opt to buddy up and share (single girls) and others may not.

If they stay with you Friday, would it be your home or a hotel? You can offer the space but don't make it mandatory.

If you want it to be mandatory they stay at the specific hotel you are at, then you should pay. Otherwise, they will pay and make arrangements at necessary.

climbingsingle

Let them make their own arrangements and don't ask them to stay with you the night before. 

southernbelle0915

They can make their own arrangements. Ditto PPs on the sleepover. You can invite them if they'd like to, but don't expect it or make them feel pressured.

As a BM, I always stay up with the bride if she wants to after the RD, but I like to sleep by myself in my own room. Not a party pooper thing, but a personal preference.

Maggie0829

I would see if you could block off some rooms at a hotel at a possible discounted rate.  Then let them know you have rooms available at X hotel for $Y.  Then leave it up to them to make their own arrangements.

And I seventh (?) the whole nixing of the sleepover the night before.  Just let everyone sleep in their own rooms and be able to get up and get themselves awake and ready for the day in the comfort of their own hotel room.

jdblnn

If possible, do a hotel block for all wedding guests so that there is a central location for everyone.  It helps with day of logistics.  Then leave it up to them to book (there or elsewhere if they choose).  As for the night before, I think it's ok to invite everyone over, but I would wait until closer to the wedding to decide.  You may want some privacy the night before, and it's important you get a good night's sleep.  

SP29

If you are REQUIRING your bridesmaids to stay with you, then yes you need to cover their accommodations. But I agree- do NOT require this. It's fine to hang out and visit, make the offer that you will be staying at X hotel, but let them stay where they want. Particularly those with family members- let them stay as a family. 

Otherwise, it is not up to you to cover anyone's accommodations. Having a block of hotel rooms booked prior is always nice, for all your guests, as usually there is a discount since the rooms are in bulk. 

Wigglesx2

I totally forgot I posted this.

I'm not requiring anyone to stay with me. Several wanted to and I'm just assuming at this point that Friday night be would an offer to stay with me (probably at home) and I would only be responsible for their Saturday night (assuming I had to pay for it).

I feel better knowing I don't HAVE to pay for their hotels, though I wouldn't have a problem if there was a money concern and they asked for help.

Thanks! This is a big concern off my mind now.

Jen4948

Only if you require your bridesmaids to stay with you or at any particular lodging (which you shouldn't) do you need to pay for the lodgings.  But since you're not requiring it, you're off the financial hook.

Wigglesx2

Thanks! I'm not requiring them to stay anywhere. They are just all out of town from me, expect for one.