I wanted to get some feedback regarding a concern that I have. I am in the process of planning my wedding for September 2014 and know planning wedding can bring out a lot of emotions and, of course, drama. Long story short, I am not close with my mother at all. I have a more mother-daughter relationship with my future mother-in-law than I do with my own mother. There is a lot off issues with myself and my mother, but I have always tried to be the bigger person. She hasn't been the most supportive person when it comes to the wedding and she has continuously made snarky remarks such as "I should've gone to city hall" (which that is not a negative, however not the way I want to get married). She has made me feel guilty for wanting a wedding and I've struggled with finding the joy in some of the planning. On top of her negativity, my future in-laws are paying for the bulk of the wedding while she is only paying for one vendor. I feel that these issues are going to cause more problems down the line and I just want my day to be full of happiness and celebration. Any advice on how I can handle an unsupportive mother? More so, how I can handle myself knowing how she is going to be the day of the wedding. Thanks!
***Also, regarding the issues with my mother, I initally wanted my 14 year old sister to be a part of the wedding. However, my mother is already complaining about the finances and time frame (and I will not be able to provide the funds for her dress). I am beginning to feel that I may not have my sister in my wedding because of my mother and it is really bothering me. I feel horrible because my sister wants to be in the wedding but I don't think she will be able to. Any thoughts on how to handle this matter? Thanks.