Ceremony and Vow Ideas

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    Lose the "junior" and treat him exactly as all the other groomsmen with the exception of drinking and any other "over 21" activities.  He doesn't need anything "creative/fun to do/hold" that the other groomsmen are not doing.  Also, stop worrying about even sides.  They don't have to be even.  He can be paired up or tripled up with someone.  Not doing so because of his age means that you are focused on the wrong things.
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  • Well thanks for that rude reply. Im not treating him any differently, just trying to be fun & creative. Im not worried about uneven sides and I clearly stated I did not want to pair him up. he is shy amd I want to make sure he is comfortable. 
  • doeydodoeydo Southwestern Ontario
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    Jen4948 said:
    Lose the "junior" and treat him exactly as all the other groomsmen with the exception of drinking and any other "over 21" activities.  He doesn't need anything "creative/fun to do/hold" that the other groomsmen are not doing.  Also, stop worrying about even sides.  They don't have to be even.  He can be paired up or tripled up with someone.  Not doing so because of his age means that you are focused on the wrong things.
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  • Uh yea thanks...I was looking for ideas, not comments belittling my thoughts
  • doeydodoeydo Southwestern Ontario
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    lpetillo said:
    Well thanks for that rude reply. Im not treating him any differently, just trying to be fun & creative. Im not worried about uneven sides and I clearly stated I did not want to pair him up. he is shy amd I want to make sure he is comfortable. 
    Then treat him like the rest of the groomsmen.  Holding "cute" signs or something else that would single him out would probably make him uncomfortable.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    lpetillo said:
    Well thanks for that rude reply. Im not treating him any differently, just trying to be fun & creative. Im not worried about uneven sides and I clearly stated I did not want to pair him up. he is shy amd I want to make sure he is comfortable. 
    No one was rude to you.

    Teenagers tend to feel very sensitive about their dignity-they're not into "fun" or "creative" at their own expense, especially if they're shy.  And if you're not worried about uneven sides, it shouldn't make any difference whether or not he is paired up.
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  • OP - I really think that since he is shy, you should not ask him to hold or carry anything.  That brings attention to him that he probably doesn't want.  He is at an awkward age and I really do encourage you to just treat him no differently than the others.  My DS is 18 and would have been mortified if any of his 4 sisters had asked him to carry a sign down the aisle when he was14.

    I am not trying to be rude or snarky (and the others weren't either), I am trying to ask you to please don't single out the tween in the bunch.  It is hard to be that age as it is and if you treat  him like one of the guys I think he will be as comfortable as it can get.
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  • A 14 year old shy boy is probably not going to walk down any aisle by himself.  He will put his head down and be very red in the face.  Please dont put him through that.  Perhaps he could escort a mother or grandmother and then join the other groomsmen.
  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall
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    I cringe every time someone calls any of their attendants "junior." Why is this concept so difficult to understand for so many brides? They all do the same thing. The are all the same thing. They should all be called the same thing. 

    If you had 2 flower girls and one of them was younger, would you call her the junior flower girl? Of course not. So why do it to the bridesmaids and groomsmen?




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  • Don't make him any different than any other of your groomsmen. If your other groomsmen aren't don't something "fun and creative" then don't make your cousin. 

    I can't think of any "ideas" for you, because I think he is too old for all of that "Here comes your bride" stuff. (I don't really like those signs anyway). There isn't anything else I can think of that would be appropriate. 

    If he is shy, ask him what he would prefer. He may prefer to triple up with another pair so he isn't alone walking, he may prefer to walk alone since the other party members are likely a fair bit older than him, or he could escort another relative to their seat and then stand at the front. 
    doeydo
  • chibiyuichibiyui The Boring Part of MD
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    Came for the ......

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    Stayed for the complete over-reaction.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall
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    Another pointless DD. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • thejucheideathejucheidea East Nashville, Tennessee
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    Just here for the DD...

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  • Came for the DD leaving sad that no one qouted the original post...

    although from what I gather a bunch of people gave good solid advice that the OP didn't like so they took down their post and tried to hide the fact that they were wrong...

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