Thank you note for fiance's family friend- how do I sign?

mldc321

I'm writing a thank you note to my fiance's family friend and I'm wondering how do I sign it?  I know if he were writing it he would say "love"- would it be appropriate if I signed it "Love" with both our names?  I just met her but I don't want to be rude- I don't want it to be awkward when I see her next. 

AroundTheBlock

Never sign anyone's name but your own. Mention your fiance's name in the body of the text. Sign it "love" if that is how he would sign it: it is a social convention not a declaration of undying affection. If you absolutely cannot bring yourself to write "love", you can resort to the colder "kindest regards".

AddieCake

I don't think there's anything wrong with writing both your names. The thank you is, after all, from both of you. I wrote all our cards, said, "Thank you so much for x. We appreciate it....(or "we will use it for", or whatever) and signed both our names since I said "we" in the note. 

Ven&Radio

I'm a fan of signing "sincerely" when I don't know the recipient well. I'm not comfortable signing "love" to all but the people I am closest to.

Blue_Bird

Why don't you just have him write it? Is he unavailable?

mysticl

AroundTheBlock said:

Never sign anyone's name but your own. Mention your fiance's name in the body of the text. Sign it "love" if that is how he would sign it: it is a social convention not a declaration of undying affection. If you absolutely cannot bring yourself to write "love", you can resort to the colder "kindest regards".

Seriously?  It's a thank you note, not a legally binding contract.  The majority of cards/notes I receive from married couples have one person signing the card for both, or for the whole family if there are children.  

OP, I vote for "Sincerely" as well.  It would not be rude to leave the word "love" off.  

huskypuppy14

I think if your FI would write "love" than it's fine for you to write it with both your names. 

misssunshine17

I wrote with love on peoples that love felt a little too strong. Not sure why it makes a difference, but felt fine for us. I guess since I feel like love is really love you. 

mysticl

misssunshine17 said:

I wrote with love on peoples that love felt a little too strong. Not sure why it makes a difference, but felt fine for us. I guess since I feel like love is really love you. 

To me signing it "love" says I'm asking them to love me, whereas signing it "with love" says I'm sending them my love.  

AddieCake

That's what punctuation is for.

mysticl

AddieL73 said:

That's what punctuation is for.

You put a comma after either one.  

With Love,

Mystic

Or 

Love,

Mystic

I'm just saying how it feels to me.  It's something I came up with as a kid and it just stuck. 

dramamonkey

Warmly, 

Sincerely, 

Yours, 

With all our love, 

Best, 

BlueBirdMB

"Best" is a personal favorite of mine.  I only use "love" for very close family and friends.  But really, your FI should be writing the note, not you.  My husband writes thank yous to all of his family and friends, even if they give us gifts together.  He wrote all of his own wedding present thank you notes.

mysticl

BlueBirdMB said:

"Best" is a personal favorite of mine.  I only use "love" for very close family and friends.  But really, your FI should be writing the note, not you.  My husband writes thank yous to all of his family and friends, even if they give us gifts together.  He wrote all of his own wedding present thank you notes.

You just say " Best, Blue Bird"?  I've never seen that, what does it mean?  Is it short for "all my best"?

AddieCake

mysticl said:

AddieL73 said:

That's what punctuation is for.

You put a comma after either one.  

With Love,

Mystic

Or 

Love,

Mystic

I'm just saying how it feels to me.  It's something I came up with as a kid and it just stuck. 

I understand that. My point is that the comma negates it being you asking someone to love you.