Hello all! Here is some background info that has to do with my current wedding issue. I am Catholic and I absolutely want to get married in a church- because as we know, it can be difficult to get permission to marry outside of a church, and have it recognized by the church at the same time. My fiance (also Catholic) and I do not regularly attend a particular church, and we wanted to find one to grow into, and to get married at:) I originally wanted to get married at our city cathedral, but it was WAY expensive!!!- big surprise lol. So i started hunting for a bargain church- yes, this is where the catholic guilt starts to kick in. I feel horrible that I am putting money in the way of finding a church that I may even have an even better connection with, even if it's more expensive. Anyway, I decided to attend the bargain church's service yesterday, and I liked it! However, you will read below that things are starting sour my dream, and I don't want to be horribly rude.
The dillema: I am planning on getting married in Dec. 2014- I asked about two dates- the 13th and the 20th.
I told the coordinator through email that I would join the church- which makes it cheaper-GUILT!. I also asked the coordinator when decorations would be up--she said XMAS EVE?!! I am probably just flipping out out over nothing, but it's the guilt . I do not want to get married THAT close to Christmas ( I had this beautiful picture in my head of a candle lit service with all of the beautiful decorations surrounding us. Then I found out that they don't even do evening weddings. NOO! maybe i just needed somewhere to vent- I have tons of time for a new local. Basically, this church is not jelling with my wedding vision- but I do not want to be horribly rude and not join-I have not officially filled out the online info for joining so I guess it's not that bad, but STIILL I feel awful!!!