I've decided to have two BMs, my friend I've known since middle school is not one. She told me last night at dinner, she assumed she would be in the top choices of people I would pick. I'm super close with one BM and very close with other. Middle school friend basically only talks to me when she breaks up with a BF or it's the holidays and I'm home. She said she would be really hurt if I didn't pick her. It's not that I don't care about her or want her to be a part of our wedding, but she and I are not as close and she's in another city. It's not a matter of evening up the sides either, my FI will only have one attendant.
So I will tell her at Thanksgiving (next time I'll be home). Any suggestions on how to soften the blow?
My mother suggested to ask her to do guest book, but that's just insulting.