Does your SO cook for you?

Youaremylolipop

I already posted this over on the nest but I feel like the nest is totally dead. What happened?

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So my husband makes it very clear that he doesn't cook. It freaks him out, he thinks he will burn the house down, haha. The other week, he actually forgot to put water in his ramen noodles and my house ended up smelling awful and burnt for a few days. He works from 10 pm to 6am on Mondays and I get off at 7 and am home by 7:30. Last night was Monday night and I wanted to make sure he got to have a nice dinner before he had to leave for work, which is 9 to get there in time. (Plus I had meat defrosted that I really needed to use that night or it would have gone to waste.) I had him make meat balls !  He was relucant but I walked him through the whole process over the phone on my way home from work. He did a great job! They were meatballs with gouda and asiago cheese in them, and when I got home I made chipolte noodles to go along with them. I'm proud of him lol. I hope one day he will cook again!

chibiyui

My Fi and I split cooking. If I have a day off I cook, If hes'working from home he cooks. We only eat together a few days out of the week because I work a lot of night shifts.

mmm4763

He actually does most of the cooking! This is for a variety of reasons, including the fact that he is overall a better/more confident cook. (I'm great to follow a recipe and also love baking but he is amazing at pairing together random ingredients to create something delicious) He also telecommutes most days (read: works from his home office) and I have to commute + often have later meetings + will sometimes try to go straight to the gym or meet a friend to run after work so it just "works" for us.

I really, truly appreciate him doing this for us--and it makes a huge difference for us on many levels.

AprilH81

I do most of the cooking, but FI is great about grilling when the weather is nice or he will cook if he knows I've had a stressful day.

He is also AWESOME at bringing stuff home for dinner when he stops somewhere for happy hour.  

doeydo

Yes, he does most of the cooking.  If I cook, it is usually pasta or something easy.  He gets more "fancy".

clarke10

Actually for the first year and a half he did virtually all of the cooking. I had never really cooked before. It's only been in the past 6 months or so that I've branched out with cooking. Now its about 50/50.

jenniferurs

100% of the time, unless we go out to eat. I have no idea how to cook and he's an AMAZING cook who genuinely enjoys it.

shaylagirl

Mine cooks.    He actually enjoys it (whereas I hate it).

On rare occasions if he's working late, or he's just too tired or sick, I'll do it instead, but...98% of the time, he's the one in the kitchen. 

smalfrie19

I cook probably 5 nights a week. He knows how to cook, I am just home first and I like to do the domesicated wifely thing and have dinner in the oven when he gets home. Call me old fashioned. But there are nights where I don't like to cook so we will have left overs or he will make the one dish he is better than me at making (and its MY FAMILY RECIPE) which is chicken nuggets. We don't have them often because they are time consuming and deep fried.

Senecaf

Both of us cook. Neither of us are particulary good at it though. He cooks most often because he is home much before me in the evenings.

WonderRed

DH does most of the cooking in our house.  We both know how and love to cook, but he just really likes feeling like he's taking care of us this way. I usually end up doing all the clean up, which is no small task since he's the messiest cook I've ever met.

AlexisA01

Yes he is forever making some type of new sushi for me try. He used to only make Japanese cuisine but he ever since we meet, he  has been obsessed with making Fried anything. I got to admits it's nice because he loves to make sweets for and the office.

natswild

We have a friendly competition to see who the better cook is, the line seems to sway in favor of whoever is cooking, lol! It really depends on who's home first, when we're home together

monkeysip

We cook together a lot.  Sometimes I'll cook for him, sometimes him for me, but ever since I got pregnant, I've been too sick and tired to cook more than a box of kraft macaroni

H is sweet though and is cooking more for me when he can.

fre3doms

My fiance and I have been starting to cook together instead of eating out. We have been taking turns picking recipes and then buying the ingredients. Then we cook it together. Often times he's doing the chopping and prep and I do the actual cooking.

Been a fun way to find new recipes and build up our spices collection as well. I'll probably do a lot of the cooking when we're married but it's nice to know he's willing to do it as well.

AddieCake

I do most of the cooking, but there are a few things that are his to make always.

WinstonsGirl

I do most of the weekday cooking, as I'm home first normally.  He works 9-10 hours a day (off Friday pm's), so he's got a longer work day.  He does help when he gets home though, with prep if there is any, and on the occasions he beats me home, he'll start.

And he cooks me breakfast every weekend and holiday morning.  Crepes with strawberries and whipped cream.  He won't even let me help clean up, as it's now become his thing.  I'm cool with that.  

StephJean83

I do most of the cooking. Mostly because I work 1-7pm and can start something before I leave. A few days I am done early or am off, it is easier for me to cook. I usually cook for the whole apartment, which is FH, FSIL, our roommate ams me.

hlvonb

I do most of the cooking because my FI is limited in what he can cook. He has no problem with cooking though.

climbingsingle

We actually split most of the cooking 50/50.

bethsmiles

We both enjoy cooking. I think lately I've been cooking more but BF does cook for me pretty often and there are a lot of times we cook together. He is a really fantastic cook so I really love it when he wants to try out new recipes!

KytchynWitche

When it's just the two of us, we split the cooking. I think it's probably pretty close on an even split, though he might cook a little more than I do. He's better at quick fixes than I am, so it all depends on what we have in the house and what we're in the mood for. I'm also more of a baker than I am a cook. I'm pretty much limited to soups, stews and curries, and casseroles. FI makes awesome spaghetti, stir-fries, pork chops etc.

While we're living with his folks though (which I sincerely hope won't be much longer), we have a cooking roster. FI, FMIL, and I each cook 2 days a week. Once a week, FI's folks play cards at a friend's place, so then FI and I get take out or just eat toast.

CommitmentCat

He knows how to cook one meal, so unless he's cooking that, I do the cooking every night. Which I don't really mind cause it saves on the nightmare in the kitchen.

Does anyone else find that when their SO cooks they feel the need to be a TV chef and use a little bowl for each and every ingredient thereby destroying the kitchen? A bowl for the onions, a bowl for the spices, a bowl for the carrots, a bowl for this.... drives me crazy.
So much cleaning up. Keep all your veg on the chopping board!!!

krizzo17

I do upwards of 90% of the cooking, but only because I enjoy cooking - I love planning menus and coming home at the end of the day to cook a delicious meal. We split the "dinner work" 50/50, though - whoever cooks doesn't have to clean up. My husband does know how to cook, though, and it's never an issue if I don't feel like cooking or don't make it home early enough, he can throw dinner together.

ShallowSeas

I do the cooking, although he has made me dinner a few times. On nights when I don't feel like cooking, he takes us out to eat, so it evens out

emmyg65

Both of us cook. I usually make dinner on weeknights because I get home earlier, but sometimes he does. We often cook together on weekends. Fortunately, we both really enjoy cooking and don't often feel like it's a chore. 

I do think both members of a couple should be able to cook at least a few basic dishes, and highly recommend How to Cook Everything by Mark Bittman as a great beginner cookbook.

IMathlete

mmm4763 said:

He actually does most of the cooking! This is for a variety of reasons, including the fact that he is overall a better/more confident cook. (I'm great to follow a recipe and also love baking but he is amazing at pairing together random ingredients to create something delicious) He also telecommutes most days (read: works from his home office) and I have to commute + often have later meetings + will sometimes try to go straight to the gym or meet a friend to run after work so it just "works" for us.

I really, truly appreciate him doing this for us--and it makes a huge difference for us on many levels.

This is us. I can bake (but rarely do), but have no imagination in the kitchen. FI can pull a meal out of thin air and always keeps a stocked spice cabinet. He gets home earlier in the evenings, too, so most meals are his creation. I try to help by cooking the noodles, slicing vegetables...anything that doesn't impact the taste of the meal!

karlipregler

My FI does all the cooking for us and I'm so appreciative! I will cook him breakfast every so often, but I am really not a cook. I can bake perfectly and love doing so, but when it comes to cooking I just get frustrated.

southernbelle0915

I cook and he does dishes that can't go in the dishwasher. That's the deal. I love to cook and hate to clean up and he's not a great cook and doesn't mind cleaning up so the arrangement is perfect. 

Youaremylolipop

Love seeing your responses

lizandmark2014

Yes, my FI cooks for me. Usually he likes to cook spaghetti. I enjoy when he cooks because usually I do the cooking.