I'm getting a lot of feedback that my "style" or theme" ideas are incompatible. I love Old Hollywood glamour and a bit of glitter. My fiancee is much simpler and more rustic/country. We've tentatively settled on a copper, gold and blush color palette.
Is there a way I can combine the two styles without making it seem like two different weddings or will we be forced to pick something else entirely?
Re: Themes/wedding style: combining the incompatible
You can use the color palette without a "theme." Weddings really don't need themes-they have a built-in theme called "marriage."
Instead of worrying about whether something is "old Hollywood" or "rustic" enough, look at what seems to be complementary about your tastes, and play with contrast. There is no reason you can't have a grand party on a ranch that is NOT shabby chic.
Believe me, I know this one's rough, but I think ditching themes for an overall style or "vibe," like @southernbelle says, is your best bet.