Been lurking for a bit, but after the past few days just need to vent. I was thrilled to be asked to be the MOH for my close friend of 15 years. Apparently she decided MOH and wedding planenr are the same thing because the morning after I said yes I woke up to an email containing a wedding checklist with my responsibilities highlighted. I was shocked, but agreed to do it since most could be done simultaneously with my own planning (finding venues, center piece ideas, etc).
Fast forward a few months to our three day weekend of looking at venues for her (all of which I found and made appointments with). I honestly have no clue if she liked any of them since she did not say one word to anyone the whole time we were looking. She got even better during lunch when she told me to start saving up for the bachelorette party because we were all going to Disneyland. I pointed out she can't plan her our party and she said she knows and that she's SOO happy to know I'll do a great job planning a girls weekend to Disneyland for us. At this point I finally put my foot down and said I knew none of her BMs had the money to do this including me (plus as a stay home mom if I found money for Disney I'd be taking my FI and our son). She threw a mini tantrum about how it's her day and this is the ONLY acceptable option for her party.
When she calmed down a few minutes later she changed the subject asking me for suggestions on how to get a few of her BMs to lose weight before the wedding since she wants everyone to look good in the pics. I tried explaining that she can't so she decided since their two BMs and apparently me who all have a few pounds to lose her "gift" to us will be to schedule us all for a group fitness bootcamp. Other demands to ensure her pictures come out great include already having worked out a discount for us to get our hair cut and colored the week of the wedding (at our expense) and telling me I will have to go out and buy flats since I can't wear heels or I will be way taller than everyone else and it will look uneven.
By the time I went home I was ready to bail on bridezilla and her wedding, but decided against it since I didn't want to hurt the friendship. I got a call last night telling me she thought about it and has decided that since I'm not working and have a kid this may not be the best time financially for me to be a part of her wedding and she doesn't want to have to spend her big day adhering to MY demands. Couldn't be happier, but seriously WTF?!