I will start off with a little background info...
My fiancé is in the Air Force and is currently in tech school 15 hours away. We are getting married between his graduation and our moving to his duty station. We have one weekend. Also, my FMIL owns a tax business which is really busy at the beginning of the year. The one weekend we will be able to have the wedding is the first weekend of tax season. She claims that she makes the majority of the year's income on this weekend.
Now to the situation... She says the only day she would possibly be able to attend is on Sunday. We are having our wedding on that Sunday. I originally had scheduled the ceremony to start at 6 p.m., but I do not have enough money to pay for everyone to eat dinner. I debated moving the ceremony up to 2 p.m. and having hors d'oeuvres. My fiancé agreed because we would also be able to take pictures during the day. I warned him that his mom may not be able to make it and he replied with something like "It's her son's wedding, if she can't make it then it's her loss." Later when he told his mom that it would be at two instead, she freaks and cries to him saying that she can't make it. This whole time he has been reminding me that it is "OUR wedding." Now he wants to move it back to 6.
I understand him wanting his mom there, but he voted for it to be moved up even after I warned him. I am thinking about moving it to 4pm, but she doesn't know if she can even make that... Am I wrong for not wanting to give up things because she can't? If I do move it back to six, are people going to get full of of hors d'oeuvres?