We are getting married in late March and this weekend I constructed a beautiful and fun invite on vistaprint. My parents are graciously hosting the reception and FI and I are paying for all vendors, accessories, morning after brunch etc. FI family is OOT and we decided to prioritize a shuttle bus to and from the ceremony and reception (so they do not have to rent cars while staying) and have borrowed from other places in our budget- namely invites and centerpieces.
My mother has decided that the invitations I have created do not accurately reflect the formality of the wedding and has decided she wants them "fancier" as they have her name and reflect hosting. After I bristled at that statement, I gave in, told her my budget and asked her to find invites within the budget. She actually did a good job and stayed close to budget to I will appease and use the ones she picked
Now the actual questions...
Is it ever proper etiguette to word this way..
Mr and Mrs Smith invite you to the wedding of
Sally
and
John
Son of Mr. and Mrs. Johnson
I understand they (my parents) are hosting and therefore their names should be on the invite but I also feel like this wording makes it APPARENT that FI parents are NOT contributing financially (when they are- they are paying for RD and have graciously hosted a shower in his home state that they flew us both out for). Can I get both etiquette feedback and personal feeling feedback on this wording?
Second question- my mother is insisting all responses be addressed to her home and that she gets to open them first. Is that proper etiquette as well as she is technically "hosting"? In that arena I am just bummed, I am really excited to get them (don't worry we are not sending them out until the end of January) and it is one of those things that seem incredibly real and gratifying to open and get happy about. Random vent on this second one I think- I disagree with her but "she is paying so she has a say"