Time gap, Help.

lizandmark2014

I have a gap issue. Rehearsal is at 2pm the day before my wedding. Rehearsal dinner will be at 4 pm or after. ( in laws are making reservations) Do I NEED to precise a pre- rehearsal dinner snack.
Wedding date is 03/16/14
Thanks for the help ladies.

clarke10

You can't move the rehearsal up at all?

cruffino

lizandmark2014 said:

I have a gap issue. Rehearsal is at 2pm the day before my wedding. Rehearsal dinner will be at 4 pm or after. ( in laws are making reservations) Do I NEED to precise a pre- rehearsal dinner snack. Wedding date is 03/16/14 Thanks for the help ladies.

is neither one of these events movable? just seems like an easy way to avoid a hassle and a headache. why make it harder on yourself?

JCbride2015

Yeah, best case scenario would be to move the rehearsal later.  I'm guessing you can't though, otherwise you wouldn't be asking.

I think it would be appropriate to host that time, although you don't need to go crazy on food since you will all be eating at the RD.  Very light snacks and soft drinks would probably be fine.  I'm not so concerned about whether you provide food, but if I were in the rehearsal, I'd want something to do for those hours in between.

HisGirlFriday13

lizandmark2014 said:

I have a gap issue. Rehearsal is at 2pm the day before my wedding. Rehearsal dinner will be at 4 pm or after. ( in laws are making reservations) Do I NEED to precise a pre- rehearsal dinner snack. Wedding date is 03/16/14 Thanks for the help ladies.

You might be surprised to find out you don't have a gap. For all of the weddings I have been in or a part of (almost a dozen, total), the rehearsal has taken at least twice as long as the actual wedding. 

For our rehearsal, which we did at noon for a variety of reasons, we planned to rehearse the timing of the entrance music ONLY. Just the entrances. That's it. It was a full Catholic Mass, but the cantor and the organist had been rehearsing their parts beforehand.

Our rehearsal *STILL* took an hour and a half, JUST for the music. 

Two hours isn't as much time as you think. My brother and SIL's 20-minute non-denominational ceremony took two hours to rehearse, too.

MyNameIsNot

Since only a small number of people need to be at the rehearsal, it will be easy to host something during the break.  Invite your WP and their dates for a quick drink at the rehearsal dinner venue bar or at a nearby restaurant.  

Unlike PP, I've never heard of a rehearsal lasting more than an hour.  Most of the ones I've been to lasted 30 minutes, and half of it was getting people in one place paying attention.

hlvonb

@lizandmark2014

I think if you can ask your in-laws who are making the reservations to make the reservations for 4 or 4:30 at latest you will not have much of a gap. Rehearsals can take a lot longer than you expect and no rehearsal I have been to ever started on time. Lol. You may plan to start at 2 but it may be 2:15 or 2:30 before you start. Especially if people are coming in their own vehicles - they may be slowed up or caught in traffic. Then when everyone is there, it takes time to get everyone organized and ready to rehearse. Plus there is travel time to where the dinner will be after the rehearsal. Plus, if you have a little extra time before the dinner, use it as a breather so people don't feel like they are going from rehearsal to dinner without a chance to breath in between.

CLI242009

HisGirlFriday13 said:

lizandmark2014 said:

I have a gap issue. Rehearsal is at 2pm the day before my wedding. Rehearsal dinner will be at 4 pm or after. ( in laws are making reservations) Do I NEED to precise a pre- rehearsal dinner snack. Wedding date is 03/16/14 Thanks for the help ladies.

You might be surprised to find out you don't have a gap. For all of the weddings I have been in or a part of (almost a dozen, total), the rehearsal has taken at least twice as long as the actual wedding. 

For our rehearsal, which we did at noon for a variety of reasons, we planned to rehearse the timing of the entrance music ONLY. Just the entrances. That's it. It was a full Catholic Mass, but the cantor and the organist had been rehearsing their parts beforehand.

Our rehearsal *STILL* took an hour and a half, JUST for the music. 

Two hours isn't as much time as you think. My brother and SIL's 20-minute non-denominational ceremony took two hours to rehearse, too.

Yeah we just scheduled our rehearsal yesterday. My FMIL asked me to schedule is later. I was going for 2pm....she wanted me to do it at 3 or 3:30. I went with 3 on the safe side, just in case of traffic and such.

We are also having a Catholic Mass wedding. I already know it's going to be a long rehearsal. From what I've heard, just because your wedding only takes 20-30 minutes (Mass 1-1.5 hour) the rehearsal can take just as long or longer because you are getting everything ready. It goes so fast and smoothly (hopefully) because you did do the rehearsal. Where everyone is going to stand, how they'll enter, what point in the song do they enter in on, etc. Yeah @.@ the time gap will not be noticed

I know this is off topic but besides the things I just said in my post...what exactly happens at a rehearsal? I know you rehearse the day of your wedding but to what extent? Sorry never been to a rehearsal before. So i have no idea what to expect at my own come Feb. lol

lizandmark2014

All wonderful advice. Thank you!

HobokensFury

Our rehearsal took about an hour for our 30 minute ceremony.  There probably woun't be a gap depending on how far you have to drive to the restaurant.

PrettyGirlLost

CLI242009 said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

lizandmark2014 said:

I have a gap issue. Rehearsal is at 2pm the day before my wedding. Rehearsal dinner will be at 4 pm or after. ( in laws are making reservations) Do I NEED to precise a pre- rehearsal dinner snack. Wedding date is 03/16/14 Thanks for the help ladies.

You might be surprised to find out you don't have a gap. For all of the weddings I have been in or a part of (almost a dozen, total), the rehearsal has taken at least twice as long as the actual wedding. 

For our rehearsal, which we did at noon for a variety of reasons, we planned to rehearse the timing of the entrance music ONLY. Just the entrances. That's it. It was a full Catholic Mass, but the cantor and the organist had been rehearsing their parts beforehand.

Our rehearsal *STILL* took an hour and a half, JUST for the music. 

Two hours isn't as much time as you think. My brother and SIL's 20-minute non-denominational ceremony took two hours to rehearse, too.

Yeah we just scheduled our rehearsal yesterday. My FMIL asked me to schedule is later. I was going for 2pm....she wanted me to do it at 3 or 3:30. I went with 3 on the safe side, just in case of traffic and such.

We are also having a Catholic Mass wedding. I already know it's going to be a long rehearsal. From what I've heard, just because your wedding only takes 20-30 minutes (Mass 1-1.5 hour) the rehearsal can take just as long or longer because you are getting everything ready. It goes so fast and smoothly (hopefully) because you did do the rehearsal. Where everyone is going to stand, how they'll enter, what point in the song do they enter in on, etc. Yeah @.@ the time gap will not be noticed

I know this is off topic but besides the things I just said in my post...what exactly happens at a rehearsal? I know you rehearse the day of your wedding but to what extent? Sorry never been to a rehearsal before. So i have no idea what to expect at my own come Feb. lol

The coordinator will line everyone up in the order that they are to process into the ceremony, and you will practice walking down the aisle in that order and practice where to stand. . . over and over again.

The priest will give a brief run through of the marriage specific parts of the mass and what everyone is supposed to do at each step, where you are supposed to strand, sit, kneel, etc.

Lavender123

I get all the emphasis on proper "hosting" at the wedding - couldn't agree more. This is a small group of your absolute best friends and closest family, they're not going to care. The gap is not at a mealtime, so i'd just make sure there's plenty of bottles of water/soda and you're good! There will be max an hour for people to just hang around and chat, no big deal.

CLI242009

PrettyGirlLost said:

CLI242009 said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

lizandmark2014 said:

I have a gap issue. Rehearsal is at 2pm the day before my wedding. Rehearsal dinner will be at 4 pm or after. ( in laws are making reservations) Do I NEED to precise a pre- rehearsal dinner snack. Wedding date is 03/16/14 Thanks for the help ladies.

You might be surprised to find out you don't have a gap. For all of the weddings I have been in or a part of (almost a dozen, total), the rehearsal has taken at least twice as long as the actual wedding. 

For our rehearsal, which we did at noon for a variety of reasons, we planned to rehearse the timing of the entrance music ONLY. Just the entrances. That's it. It was a full Catholic Mass, but the cantor and the organist had been rehearsing their parts beforehand.

Our rehearsal *STILL* took an hour and a half, JUST for the music. 

Two hours isn't as much time as you think. My brother and SIL's 20-minute non-denominational ceremony took two hours to rehearse, too.

Yeah we just scheduled our rehearsal yesterday. My FMIL asked me to schedule is later. I was going for 2pm....she wanted me to do it at 3 or 3:30. I went with 3 on the safe side, just in case of traffic and such.

We are also having a Catholic Mass wedding. I already know it's going to be a long rehearsal. From what I've heard, just because your wedding only takes 20-30 minutes (Mass 1-1.5 hour) the rehearsal can take just as long or longer because you are getting everything ready. It goes so fast and smoothly (hopefully) because you did do the rehearsal. Where everyone is going to stand, how they'll enter, what point in the song do they enter in on, etc. Yeah @.@ the time gap will not be noticed

I know this is off topic but besides the things I just said in my post...what exactly happens at a rehearsal? I know you rehearse the day of your wedding but to what extent? Sorry never been to a rehearsal before. So i have no idea what to expect at my own come Feb. lol

The coordinator will line everyone up in the order that they are to process into the ceremony, and you will practice walking down the aisle in that order and practice where to stand. . . over and over again.

The priest will give a brief run through of the marriage specific parts of the mass and what everyone is supposed to do at each step, where you are supposed to strand, sit, kneel, etc.

Thank you! I figured that's what it was but I wasn't entirely sure. That's why I asked.

Also about the time - it also depends on if everyone arrives early or on time for the rehearsal. Sometimes the rehearsal doesn't start till everyone is there. I know this isn't the case for every rehearsal, sometimes the rehearsal goes on with or without everyone. Everyone is on time. I'm just throwing this out there because that could make the rehearsal long...the waiting.

monkeysip

we had a Catholic mass, and we didn't do any musical rehearsing.  The organist/cantor didn't come to our rehearsal.

We just practiced the processional, where people would stand, how we'd do the vows/rings, then the recessional.  It took about 45 minutes, but we did start at least 20 minutes late.  Then a 10 minute drive to the dinner.  So, all in all, probably 1 hour, 15 minutes.  So there would've still been a gap for us.