Three showers to choose from

shannonc7172

Three showers are being planned for the bride, her family, his family and friends.  She would like her guests to choose which shower to attend due to location and date.  One invitation will be created,  not sure of wording yet.  What do y'all think?

Teddy917

It sounds horrible to me.
1. That many showers seems excessive.
2. Just make seperate guest list. If you really need three showers do one per family and one for friends or something.

vk2204

shannonc7172 said:

Three showers are being planned for the bride, her family, his family and friends.  She would like her guests to choose which shower to attend due to location and date.  One invitation will be created,  not sure of wording yet.  What do y'all think?

What if they all choose one date, or there are only a few people who choose one? Will it still take place? Can one shower hold enough people based off of response?

I think the bride just needs to have 1 shower, or 2 if absolutely necessary. If all of these people want to throw her a shower why not just combine resources and throw one?

climbingsingle

I think that sounds like a terrible idea. 

chibiyui

What @Teddy917 said.

Personally, I would be confused by a single invitation for 3 different dates/events

clarke10

If everyone wants to throw a shower, why not have them work together to throw one big shower?

southernbelle0915

This would be really confusing for the people you invite. The bride can help develop the guest lists to ensure that each hostess isn't inviting guests to more than one shower. The only people who I think should be invited to both family showers is the MOB and MOG. 

Send three separate invitations. Guests will only receive one and it will be clear to which event they're invited. It should be obvious since guests mostly fit neatly into one category or the other. If not, have the bride choose which one she wants the guest to attend.

HobokensFury

Sorry but the bride shouldn't have any say in her shower (or showers in this case). 3 seems like overkill. If people can choose which event they want to attend it doesn't seem like the locations are too far apart. Is there a reason both families need their own shower?  Why can't friends attend a family shower? As pp have stated what if too many people pick the same date and not enough on another?  The only way to do this is separate guests lists.

melbelleup

We're doing 2 showers for me because my FI's mom doesn't think any of her family would travel 2-3 hours for my shower. The only ones being double invited are my mom, bridesmaids (though I already told them they don't have to go to both or either), his mom, his aunt (she's helping hosting the 2nd one and is involved in his life a lot) and that's it.

Don't double invite. It will seem gift grabby. For people who are in between the location just ask them which they'd prefer. I did this for my one friend who lives where Fi's parents do, but she has family and was raised by mine.

shannonc7172

The bride and groom have lots of family and friends so three showers will be easier than one large shower.  The number of attendees to each shower will be limited.

Thanks for input. 

manateehugger

shannonc7172 said:

The bride and groom have lots of family and friends so three showers will be easier than one large shower.  The number of attendees to each shower will be limited.

Thanks for input. 

STUPID BOX

I really hope you mean limited as in only inviting 30 guests to the shower that makes the most sense for them to attend and not delegating attendance to one of the three showers.