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Uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen


Re: Uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen

  • Cyrin05 said:
    Or just say you're doing it the British way! Over here bridesmaids walk down the aisle on their own, before the bride and her dad. The groom, best man and grooms men/ushers (not sure if there is a difference in the US, but they are the same thing in the UK), are ready standing at the end of the aisle.
    We're having 3 bridesmaids and a best man, and there are no problems :)
    You don't even have to say that.  My mom did it this way.  It's maybe not as common here but it's certainly done.

  • We have 8 women and 4 men. I just have more very close friends then my fiance does. Of course people have their opinions and think I should drop some bridesmaids, but we will have two ladies with each man.
  • We originally had 7 on each side, but one of our groomsmen is being deployed 2 months before the wedding, and we didn't want to just "replace" him. I think it'll work out just great, I'm just having my MOH walk alone right before me, and then everyone else is paired up evenly. Not how I originally planned it, but it'll work great! 
  • abi514abi514 member
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    edited December 2013
  • AMack1567 said:

    What about the bridal party dance?

    WHAT is a bridal party dance??
  • I have 4 girls and he has 5 guys. We are just going to have his best man stand up with him at the alter, that way each girl will walk with just 1 guy. Plus it will help calm his nerves to have his bestie up there with him!! :) and for pictures I don't care if the sides are uneven. We can get creative with poses.
  • And for bridal party dance you can have a significant other fill in for anyone who ends up without a partner. I wouldn't want to exclude any bridal party members from the dance.
  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom South Jersey member
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    abi514 said:
    AMack1567 said:

    What about the bridal party dance?

    WHAT is a bridal party dance??

    It's where all members of the BP dance with each other and the B&G at the reception.  It's usually very awkward all around because you are paired off and dance to a slow song with someone you just met, while its possible your SO watches. 

    I've only seen it happen once.  It was at my BILs wedding.  H was BM and he hates dancing period but had to dance with the MOH (he didn't know about the bridal party dance until they went to start the reception).  And then my widowed MIL was standing up there alone, while the parents of the B started dancing together with the rest of the BP.  I ran up from my seat to dance with MIL because it was so horrible to watch for her to stand there by herself.

  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member
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    Just say no to the bridal party dance. It is uncomfortable for the members of the wedding party and boring as hell for you guests to watch.

    KeptInStitchesPrettyGirlLost[Deleted User]
  • Literally every single wedding I've been to that I can remember (so for the past 10 years starting when I was 21) the BMs walked down the aisle one at a time, alone, and the groomsmen were already standing up there at the beginning of the ceremony.  They did "pair up" to recess at the end of the ceremony, but at that point the bride and groom are already gone and no one cares or notices who is walking with who or who is walking alone or what GM was escorting two BMs or how many BMs recessed together...i seriously can't believe this is even an issue. 


    Also, a bridal party dance?  NO.  Your guests are annoyed enough having to watch the bride and groom's first dance, the father-daughter dance, and the mother-son dance.  Please for the love of god do not have another special dance.  And if you do, at least let each bridal party member dance with their actual date if they have one.


    FWIW, we have 5 GM and 4 BM.  The best man is FI's dad.  Most of the GM will already be up there with FI when the procession begins; FI's dad will escort his mom to her seat and then move into his place.  On the way out, FI's dad will pick up his mom again and escort her so she doesn't have to walk alone.  The rest of FI's family is acutally in the wedding (his dad, sister, and BIL are attendants), so we didn't want her to be left out.  I was just in a wedding with 1 GM and 3 BMs, two BMs simply recessed together at the end.  No big deal.

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