I need help! Serious Bridemaid dilemma!

PrettyGirlLost

bdraheim39 said:

I have been with my fiancé for over 4.5 years and got engaged in January. My wedding is in June, and we've had the date set since March, and my bridesmaids have known since April. They all accepted, which, to me, also means they accept the responsibility of helping plan and being there for me for my day.  That guy/girl who proposed to you. . . you know, your FI- is the one who is supposed to help you plan your wedding. 

What do you mean by "be there for you"?  Emotional support?  It's a wedding not a damn funeral or mid life crisis.  You shouldn't need emotional support you should be happy to be getting married!  But if you feel like you are going to lose your shit, you go cry on your FI's shoulder. 

As of a few days ago, one of my bridesmaids got engaged, and while I'm very happy for her, it poses a problem. She wants to get married as early as May! We have already talked and she asked me to be a bridesmaid, but I am at a crossroad. If she gets married in May, then that means all the focus gets turned to her instead of me. I don't know if I am being selfish or not, but can I talk to her about it?   Good lord, yes, you are being a selfish, entitled brat!  If you want the focus or spotlight to be on you, then go take part in a play.  The point of getting engaged is not so that you become to focus of everyone's lives around you.  If that is your priority, you need to rethink what engagement and marriage mean.   Is it a genuine concern that she agreed to be there for me, and now she's more concerned with getting married as quick as she can? No, you are being ridiculous.  She didn't agree to "be there for you" your FI did when he/she put a ring on it.  Your friend agreed to be a BM in your wedding, which means she agreed to but a dress and show up to your ceremony sober and on time.  Of course she will be more concerned with her own wedding- it's her wedding!  No one will care about your wedding as much as you and your FI.  It's just another wedding/party for everyone else, for you guys it's a life event.  I don't want to come off as selfish or a Bridezilla, but do I have a place in her how I feel? Or do I need to just suck it up?  Suck it up.

RebeccaB88

Yep, suck it up, butter cup. Your words, not mine.