Rant...Sorry.... Part 2

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I'm really sorry @hlvonb that you're having to deal with CrazyPants. H and I dealt with our estranged fathers being a nuisance during our wedding planning. My father tried to call a few of my vendors to change things but fortunately they knew better and gave me a call before doing anything. H's father showed up at the wedding and tried to get in but fortunately venue security recognized him from the picture we gave them and escorted him to the sheriff's car at the entrance without either the guests or H knowing. 

I highly recommend you keep your vendors in the loop so they know to watch for her and have a game plan for removing her as discreetly as possible without upsetting the guests.

hlvonb

JordanF13 said:

I'm really sorry @hlvonb that you're having to deal with CrazyPants. H and I dealt with our estranged fathers being a nuisance during our wedding planning. My father tried to call a few of my vendors to change things but fortunately they knew better and gave me a call before doing anything. H's father showed up at the wedding and tried to get in but fortunately venue security recognized him from the picture we gave them and escorted him to the sheriff's car at the entrance without either the guests or H knowing. 

I highly recommend you keep your vendors in the loop so they know to watch for her and have a game plan for removing her as discreetly as possible without upsetting the guests.

I agree on giving a picture to them as well as information like height, weight, etc

zitiqueen

Holy crap, I just caught up on everything. This chick is straight-jacket crazy. Does she know you're posting here? I'd be concerned with posting your plans if she does.

kmmssg

Holy moly - she is out there.  I am so sorry about your situation and lost friendship.  She needs some serious help, I hope one day she finds that.

A question for you:  does she know you are on the knot?  Does she know your user name?  Can she follow you on here and see what you are planning to do if she shows up?

hlvonb

zitiqueen said:

Holy crap, I just caught up on everything. This chick is straight-jacket crazy. Does she know you're posting here? I'd be concerned with posting your plans if she does.

@zitiqueen

I don't think she does and if she does, oh well. Not much I can do. I am not going to stop posting or create a new account if she does. lol

hlvonb

kmmssg said:

Holy moly - she is out there.  I am so sorry about your situation and lost friendship.  She needs some serious help, I hope one day she finds that.

A question for you:  does she know you are on the knot?  Does she know your user name?  Can she follow you on here and see what you are planning to do if she shows up?

*STUCK IN BOX*

@kmmssg

I don't think she knows and if she does, I don't think she knows what my username is. We shall see what happens / if anything as time goes by. Like my sister said, maybe this was the last thing she was going to do and since it didn't work, she might just go cry in a corner somewhere. Lol.

Cokezerofreak

I'd be getting a restraining order. 

My problems are nothing compared to this.  I am so sorry you are going through it.

hlvonb

Cokezerofreak said:

I'd be getting a restraining order. 

My problems are nothing compared to this.  I am so sorry you are going through it.

@Cokezerofreak

Thanks! I would love to get a restraining order but according to the police department and other court officials I talked to, a R.O. probably would not be enforced. I am thinking of looking into an Order of Protection or something but I don't know about that either. Now, had she succeeded and got the refunds mailed to HER then it would be a whole different ball game.

Right now, it is almost a she said, she said situation. She's telling the vendors that she is contacting them on my behalf (which implies I told her to). There is no proof to show I did not do this unless they get a court order to go through all phone records, emails, texts, etc etc. I don't think they would even consider doing that at this point. Especially since there was no "damage" done because the vendors contacted me about it therefore allowing me to clear up the issue. 

Bashley20062

This is awful!  I mean, it would be bad enough to have an enemy or other crazy person do this to you, but to have a good friend pull this stunt?!?  It would be heartbreaking to me if my MOH did anything like this.  Not only is it a huge stress on you and your FI, but to lose a good friend makes it worse.  I hope you have other supportive people in your life that you can rely on.  I don't really have any advice for you that hasn't been given, but I would like to say i'm sorry that this happened to you. 

Keep your chin up, the craziness is behind you and you are getting closer and closer to marrying the one you love.  Best wishes!

offthemarket915

I read the whole thing but think I missed something... how did it go from meeting to swap the dress / check to her trying to cancel all your vendors on you?

Surely this qualfies as harrassment?

hlvonb

Bashley20062 said:

This is awful!  I mean, it would be bad enough to have an enemy or other crazy person do this to you, but to have a good friend pull this stunt?!?  It would be heartbreaking to me if my MOH did anything like this.  Not only is it a huge stress on you and your FI, but to lose a good friend makes it worse.  I hope you have other supportive people in your life that you can rely on.  I don't really have any advice for you that hasn't been given, but I would like to say i'm sorry that this happened to you. 

Keep your chin up, the craziness is behind you and you are getting closer and closer to marrying the one you love.  Best wishes!

@Bashley20062

Thanks! I think she did it because after her last "stunt" she took herself out of the bridal party and my fiancé and I made the decision to hold her to that after everything. I do hope that it is all behind me and that this is the last thing she does.

hlvonb

offthemarket915 said:

I read the whole thing but think I missed something... how did it go from meeting to swap the dress / check to her trying to cancel all your vendors on you?

Surely this qualfies as harrassment?

@offthemarket915

I would love to know how it goes from that to this too. I really don't know why she did it. Maybe because she is jealous of my wedding since she didn't get the one she wanted? Maybe she is just pissy because she's no longer going to be a part of it? I really don't know. I was very surprised and angry when I found out about this. I wish I knew. Maybe she doesn't even know why. I do think she has a lot of issues to work on and she may not even realize what all of them are.

I am not sure if it would qualify as harassment or not.

offthemarket915

Just... wow. 

How did she act when you met up for the dress?

Does she know by now that you found out what she did?

hlvonb

offthemarket915 said:

Just... wow. 

How did she act when you met up for the dress?

Does she know by now that you found out what she did?

@offthemarket915

She acted fine. She didn't seem like she was holding a grudge or anything. I can only assume that by know she knows I know.... but I can't say for sure 100% because I haven't talked to her about it.

offthemarket915

I feel terrible for you.  I think I would go nuclear if it were me. 

hlvonb

offthemarket915 said:

I feel terrible for you.  I think I would go nuclear if it were me. 

@offthemarket915

Oh believe me, I was LIVID when I first found out. I was at work too and had to call my Maid of Honor to help me calm down enough to drive home. I did post a status on Facebook when I got home that was a bit "snarky" but did not mention any names.

Cokezerofreak

That sucks that the damages aren't concrete enough for you to do something/anything legally.  Like you've mention, hopefully this is her last action.  *virtual hugs*

hlvonb

Cokezerofreak said:

That sucks that the damages aren't concrete enough for you to do something/anything legally.  Like you've mention, hopefully this is her last action.  *virtual hugs*

@Cokezerofreak

Thanks!

erinlin25

woah-- she dropped out of your wedding and then tried to cancel your vendors!!?  She is batsh!t crazy!!  I hope all your vendors understand and I am surprised they would let a random person cancel "on your behalf."  Ugh, I hope you can get it figured out. Sorry you have to deal with that!  You are better off without this friend anyway, what a horrible person

hlvonb

erinlin25 said:

woah-- she dropped out of your wedding and then tried to cancel your vendors!!?  She is batsh!t crazy!!  I hope all your vendors understand and I am surprised they would let a random person cancel "on your behalf."  Ugh, I hope you can get it figured out. Sorry you have to deal with that!  You are better off without this friend anyway, what a horrible person

@erinlin25

Yes that is basically the nutshell version of it. I agree I am better off without her as a friend since she is proving to not be much of a friend at all. I don't think they actually let her cancel since they all contacted me before doing anything regarding refunds so I was able to sort it out and luckily I did not lose any vendors over it.