Changing last names

jdluvr06

So my FI is changing his last name to mine for various reasons. Well he got on the states website to check out the process for having this done. It is insane! If I were changing my last name I would just have to go to the courthouse and sign a few papers. The process for him changing his last name could take months apparently. He has to fill out pretty much the same papers but there are a few added to that and apparently it takes longer to process it (according to the website). Grrrr... Oh right mini rant over.

huskypuppy14

Yeah, I find that really sexist. I live in a state that allows gay marriage, so in that, whether you are male or female, you can change your name when you get married in the same way.  My FI and I are both keeping our own names when we get married.

hellohkb

Yeah, I've read how hard and sexist the process of the man changing his name is. It's ridiculous. I hope it becomes more common so it can be easier!

jdluvr06

I hope it becomes easier some day too. We were just really surprised at how difficult it was going to be. I mean it is just ridiculous.

JCbride2015

Oh no!  This is so sexist and terrible.  I have all kinds of complicated feelings about name-changing to begin with, though.

jdluvr06

I guess I shouldn't be too surprised... I do live in Kentucky

Senecaf

Wow, that is terrible. I wouldn't have even thought about that being a different process.

chibiyui

That sucks. Bleh institutional sexism.

emmyg65

Ugh, this is actually super common and totally ridiculous. Good luck getting through the process!

thejucheidea

jdluvr06 said:

I guess I shouldn't be too surprised... I do live in Kentucky

Yay for the South (commiserates the Tennessean) .

christipbetts

Yes, I've heard it can be a nightmare. Both of us are changing our last names to a hyphenated name, so I'm mentally preparing now. lol

 

 

jdluvr06

thejucheidea said:

jdluvr06 said:

I guess I shouldn't be too surprised... I do live in Kentucky

Yay for the South (commiserates the Tennessean) .

The south does take a bit to catch up doesn't it?

Peace Love Cupcakes

Ohio is just as bad!

pumpkinsandturkeys

Canada isn't much better... Things are stupid here in Ontario. I can legally assume his surname or assume it by hyphenating our surnames without any fees (within 90 days) or having to reissue my birth certificate with the new name. However, if I want both last names sans hyphen, or if I want to add my maiden name as a middle name (so that I can use his as my surname but still keep mine somehow), I need to do a legal name change, complete with fees and reissuing the birth certificate (and it takes a lot more time).