website info

melbelleup

I'm working on my invitation wording and inserts. I was wondering where does the website url go? I had it on my STD but obviously it shouldn't go on the invites... or can it? I don't have any room to put it with the accommodations. I could put it with the reception location, but the directions to the reception is on the back of that card (lots of OOT guests). I really don't want to make yet another insert for the website URL. I could put it on the back of the accommodations but I don't know how many people will flip it over.  Because of the inserts, people really don't need to go to our website.

Jen4948

There are different opinions on this.  Some people think it shouldn't go on an invitation, especially if it has registry links attached to it; others are okay with putting it in the invitation; still others are fine with it being on an insert but not the invitation itself.

Most people, I think, are okay with putting it on a save-the-date.

Me, I'm fine with including it on the invitation itself-at least I won't side-eye an invitation with a URL.

hlvonb

@melbelleup

If you put it on the save the date then it does not need to be on the invitation but I would say put it somewhere near the bottom of the invite. After all the wording and location / time. 

Jen4948

hlvonb said:

@melbelleup

If you put it on the save the date then it does not need to be on the invitation but I would say put it somewhere near the bottom of the invite. After all the wording and location / time. 

I'd say it should still go on the invitation regardless of whether or not it's on the save-the-date, because probably save-the-dates won't go to all the guests, whereas the invitation will, and not having it on the invitation means that those who don't get the save-the-date won't have it.

melbelleup

Jen4948 said:

hlvonb said:

@melbelleup

If you put it on the save the date then it does not need to be on the invitation but I would say put it somewhere near the bottom of the invite. After all the wording and location / time. 

I'd say it should still go on the invitation regardless of whether or not it's on the save-the-date, because probably save-the-dates won't go to all the guests, whereas the invitation will, and not having it on the invitation means that those who don't get the save-the-date won't have it.

This is true. The only ones I sent STD to were mine and Fi's immediate family and his re-enacting friends (they're all over PA, OH, VA, SC)

Maggie0829

If you put it on the STD then don't put it on the invitation because the guests already got that information.  

You know there was a time when websites did not exist and people were still able to attend weddings without issue. If you are including directions and accommodation information in the invite then why do they really need the website address with most likely the same information?

southernbelle0915

Also, just to throw in my $0.02 - many websites can be found by doing a simple google search. I do that for almost every wedding I go to now if I'm curious about their wedding info. 

Jen4948

Maggie0829 said:

If you put it on the STD then don't put it on the invitation because the guests already got that information.  

You know there was a time when websites did not exist and people were still able to attend weddings without issue. If you are including directions and accommodation information in the invite then why do they really need the website address with most likely the same information?

The bolded only makes sense if everyone who gets an invitation gets an STD, which is not generally the case.  Not to mention, some people don't keep STDs, and not all websites are up at the time STDs go out.

Lavender123

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Maggie0829

Maggie0829 said:

If you put it on the STD then don't put it on the invitation because the guests already got that information.  

You know there was a time when websites did not exist and people were still able to attend weddings without issue. If you are including directions and accommodation information in the invite then why do they really need the website address with most likely the same information?

Then refer to the second part of my post that not having access to a wedding website will not hinder the guests from making it to the wedding especially when the same exact info from the website is being included in the card (except for the cute proposal story and the "how I know my wedding part members" section which is just fluff). The bolded only makes sense if everyone who gets an invitation gets an STD, which is not generally the case.  Not to mention, some people don't keep STDs, and not all websites are up at the time STDs go out.

Jen4948

Maggie0829 said:

Maggie0829 said:

If you put it on the STD then don't put it on the invitation because the guests already got that information.  

You know there was a time when websites did not exist and people were still able to attend weddings without issue. If you are including directions and accommodation information in the invite then why do they really need the website address with most likely the same information?

Then refer to the second part of my post that not having access to a wedding website will not hinder the guests from making it to the wedding especially when the same exact info from the website is being included in the card (except for the cute proposal story and the "how I know my wedding part members" section which is just fluff). The bolded only makes sense if everyone who gets an invitation gets an STD, which is not generally the case.  Not to mention, some people don't keep STDs, and not all websites are up at the time STDs go out.

Maggie, I don't agree with you.  Apparently you didn't read the bolded, and not everything that goes on a website that the guests truly need may be on an invitation.  People use websites for more than "fluff," and a lot of times at the time an STD goes out, the information is not available to put on a website.  The website may not even be up by the time the STD goes out, and it may contain information needed by people who will not get STDs, such as religious requirements, or parking/transportation information or various other things. 

So I find the whole "put it on an STD only" to be crap.

ashleyep

@Jen4948 It's not hard to find someone's wedding website. I do it all the time at work when their save the date is at home on my fridge. 

Plus, like Maggie said, if accommodations information is included with the invitation, then there's little reason to have to put a link to the website.

Jen4948

ashleyep said:

@Jen4948 It's not hard to find someone's wedding website. I do it all the time at work when their save the date is at home on my fridge. 

Plus, like Maggie said, if accommodations information is included with the invitation, then there's little reason to have to put a link to the website.

This is what I don't agree with.  Someone may need a link to the website who isn't getting an STD.

If you want to make information available, then you shouldn't restrict putting it out to one mailing that not everyone will get.  Not only that, the website may contain information that wasn't available when STDs went out-and no, I'm not talking about "fluff." 

Good hosting involves making sure that guests have what they need, when they need it-not making "I'm not wasting my time because everyone can figure it out for themselves" assumptions about them.  As they say, assumptions make asses out of you and me-because what you assume to be true is quite often not the case.

ashleyep

IF THERE IS AN ACCOMODATION CARD IN THE INVITATION, THERE'S NO NEED FOR A LINK TO THE WEBSITE.

Invitation. Not Save the Date. What about that don't you agree with?

The only other useful information on my website is registry info. Accommodations were on there long before save the dates went out and will also be on an insert in the envelope. The guests who didn't get a save the date will survive just fine without a link to my registry.

Maggie0829

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations? I guess before the internet wedding guests were fucked, or they used the thing called a telephone to call up the couple or the host and ask a question if they were confused.

I have been to a lot of weddings and most had wedding websites.  Out of all the weddings I have been to I have gotten all the necessary information via invite and never once looked at the website.  I would think it truly rude of a couple to include important information on the website and not in their invitation.  The invitation is where all information should be relayed, the website to me is just added fluff and unnecessary since all the important information you need to convey to your guests has already or will be done via the invite.

Jen4948

Maggie0829 said:

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations?

Any number of things that the couple needs to share.  That often isn't available until much closer to the wedding.  It's not all "fluff."

Sometimes there might be road construction around the venues or something going on that wasn't announced at the time STDs went out-a lot of times it isn't scheduled that early-that someone might need to know.  What difference does it make?  The point is, sometimes people need information from a website that isn't available at the time STDs go out, and/or they're not getting STDs!  So why the hell shouldn't it go on an invitation?  There may not even be STDs-and as I recall, you're not a fan of STDs, so there may only be the invitation!

Look, you're not going to convince me that it shouldn't go on an invitation-so stop trying to argue this with me.  I'm not interested in slugging it out to the bitter fucking end.

ashleyep

Jen4948 said:

Maggie0829 said:

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations?

Any number of things that the couple needs to share.  That often isn't available until much closer to the wedding.  It's not all "fluff."

Sometimes there might be road construction around the venues or something going on that wasn't announced at the time STDs went out-a lot of times it isn't scheduled that early-that someone might need to know.  What difference does it make?  The point is, sometimes people need information from a website that isn't available at the time STDs go out, and/or they're not getting STDs!  So why the hell shouldn't it go on an invitation?  There may not even be STDs-and as I recall, you're not a fan of STDs, so there may only be the invitation!

Look, you're not going to convince me that it shouldn't go on an invitation-so stop trying to argue this with me.  I'm not interested in slugging it out to the bitter fucking end.

Maggie didn't do Save the Dates or a website. Her guests managed just fine.

Jen4948

ashleyep said:

Jen4948 said:

Maggie0829 said:

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations?

Any number of things that the couple needs to share.  That often isn't available until much closer to the wedding.  It's not all "fluff."

Sometimes there might be road construction around the venues or something going on that wasn't announced at the time STDs went out-a lot of times it isn't scheduled that early-that someone might need to know.  What difference does it make?  The point is, sometimes people need information from a website that isn't available at the time STDs go out, and/or they're not getting STDs!  So why the hell shouldn't it go on an invitation?  There may not even be STDs-and as I recall, you're not a fan of STDs, so there may only be the invitation!

Look, you're not going to convince me that it shouldn't go on an invitation-so stop trying to argue this with me.  I'm not interested in slugging it out to the bitter fucking end.

Maggie didn't do Save the Dates or a website. Her guests managed just fine.

The fact that Maggie didn't do save-the-dates or a website does not make her the arbiter of etiquette on this.  Her guests are not the same people as would be invited to every other wedding.

Maggie0829

Oh my god! Because people are not fucking idiots that is why the websites doesn't need to be listed on the invite (and why a website isn't needed at all).  People have been going to weddings for years without constant updates to a damn website. People drive to and from places all the time without advanced notice of road construction or whatever. Guess what, they still get to their destination. And what do you want the bride or groom to do, Fucking tweet every five minutes giving updates to the traffic and such on their wedding day. 

Going to a wedding is not rocket science. Give me the fucking date, time and location and I can use my smarts to figure out how the hell to get there!

ashleyep

Jen4948 said:

ashleyep said:

Jen4948 said:

Maggie0829 said:

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations?

Any number of things that the couple needs to share.  That often isn't available until much closer to the wedding.  It's not all "fluff."

Sometimes there might be road construction around the venues or something going on that wasn't announced at the time STDs went out-a lot of times it isn't scheduled that early-that someone might need to know.  What difference does it make?  The point is, sometimes people need information from a website that isn't available at the time STDs go out, and/or they're not getting STDs!  So why the hell shouldn't it go on an invitation?  There may not even be STDs-and as I recall, you're not a fan of STDs, so there may only be the invitation!

Look, you're not going to convince me that it shouldn't go on an invitation-so stop trying to argue this with me.  I'm not interested in slugging it out to the bitter fucking end.

Maggie didn't do Save the Dates or a website. Her guests managed just fine.

The fact that Maggie didn't do save-the-dates or a website does not make her the arbiter of etiquette on this.  Her guests are not the same people as would be invited to every other wedding.

I'm not arguing that you can't put your website with your invitation. I'm sure I will on mine. But to say you have to because someone got a link to it 6 months ago is fucking asinine. Particularly if the only useful information on your website is accommodation information that you're also including with the invite.

There is no etiquette surrounding wedding websites.

Jen4948

ashleyep said:

Jen4948 said:

ashleyep said:

Jen4948 said:

Maggie0829 said:

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations?

Any number of things that the couple needs to share.  That often isn't available until much closer to the wedding.  It's not all "fluff."

Sometimes there might be road construction around the venues or something going on that wasn't announced at the time STDs went out-a lot of times it isn't scheduled that early-that someone might need to know.  What difference does it make?  The point is, sometimes people need information from a website that isn't available at the time STDs go out, and/or they're not getting STDs!  So why the hell shouldn't it go on an invitation?  There may not even be STDs-and as I recall, you're not a fan of STDs, so there may only be the invitation!

Look, you're not going to convince me that it shouldn't go on an invitation-so stop trying to argue this with me.  I'm not interested in slugging it out to the bitter fucking end.

Maggie didn't do Save the Dates or a website. Her guests managed just fine.

The fact that Maggie didn't do save-the-dates or a website does not make her the arbiter of etiquette on this.  Her guests are not the same people as would be invited to every other wedding.

I'm not arguing that you can't put your website with your invitation. I'm sure I will on mine. But to say you have to because someone got a link to it 6 months ago is fucking asinine. Particularly if the only useful information on your website is accommodation information that you're also including with the invite.

There is no etiquette surrounding wedding websites.

I never said anyone HAD to put anything on an invitation or a website.  I think the logic about putting it only on an STD is flawed and fucking asinine.

Maggie0829

Jen4948 said:

ashleyep said:

Jen4948 said:

Maggie0829 said:

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations?

Any number of things that the couple needs to share.  That often isn't available until much closer to the wedding.  It's not all "fluff."

Sometimes there might be road construction around the venues or something going on that wasn't announced at the time STDs went out-a lot of times it isn't scheduled that early-that someone might need to know.  What difference does it make?  The point is, sometimes people need information from a website that isn't available at the time STDs go out, and/or they're not getting STDs!  So why the hell shouldn't it go on an invitation?  There may not even be STDs-and as I recall, you're not a fan of STDs, so there may only be the invitation!

Look, you're not going to convince me that it shouldn't go on an invitation-so stop trying to argue this with me.  I'm not interested in slugging it out to the bitter fucking end.

Maggie didn't do Save the Dates or a website. Her guests managed just fine.

The fact that Maggie didn't do save-the-dates or a website does not make her the arbiter of etiquette on this.  Her guests are not the same people as would be invited to every other wedding.

And just because you probably did do STDs and a website does not make you the fucking etiquette queen on this subject as well.

ashleyep

Maggie0829 said:

Jen4948 said:

ashleyep said:

Jen4948 said:

Maggie0829 said:

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations?

Any number of things that the couple needs to share.  That often isn't available until much closer to the wedding.  It's not all "fluff."

Sometimes there might be road construction around the venues or something going on that wasn't announced at the time STDs went out-a lot of times it isn't scheduled that early-that someone might need to know.  What difference does it make?  The point is, sometimes people need information from a website that isn't available at the time STDs go out, and/or they're not getting STDs!  So why the hell shouldn't it go on an invitation?  There may not even be STDs-and as I recall, you're not a fan of STDs, so there may only be the invitation!

Look, you're not going to convince me that it shouldn't go on an invitation-so stop trying to argue this with me.  I'm not interested in slugging it out to the bitter fucking end.

Maggie didn't do Save the Dates or a website. Her guests managed just fine.

The fact that Maggie didn't do save-the-dates or a website does not make her the arbiter of etiquette on this.  Her guests are not the same people as would be invited to every other wedding.

And just because you probably did do STDs and a website does not make you the fucking etiquette queen on this subject as well.

If I recall correctly, she's neither married nor engaged.

Jen4948

Maggie0829 said:

Jen4948 said:

ashleyep said:

Jen4948 said:

Maggie0829 said:

@Jen4948 - what else could the guests possibly need to know beside, date, time, location, address, possibly directions and accommodations?

Any number of things that the couple needs to share.  That often isn't available until much closer to the wedding.  It's not all "fluff."

Sometimes there might be road construction around the venues or something going on that wasn't announced at the time STDs went out-a lot of times it isn't scheduled that early-that someone might need to know.  What difference does it make?  The point is, sometimes people need information from a website that isn't available at the time STDs go out, and/or they're not getting STDs!  So why the hell shouldn't it go on an invitation?  There may not even be STDs-and as I recall, you're not a fan of STDs, so there may only be the invitation!

Look, you're not going to convince me that it shouldn't go on an invitation-so stop trying to argue this with me.  I'm not interested in slugging it out to the bitter fucking end.

Maggie didn't do Save the Dates or a website. Her guests managed just fine.

The fact that Maggie didn't do save-the-dates or a website does not make her the arbiter of etiquette on this.  Her guests are not the same people as would be invited to every other wedding.

And just because you probably did do STDs and a website does not make you the fucking etiquette queen on this subject as well.

Never said it did-I merely said that your logic is flawed.  But it does seem that you've been looking for reasons to pick fights with me a lot.

Maggie0829

Well I think your logic is flawed as well @Jen 4948.

Maggie0829

@Jen4948 - and I am not picking fights with you, I just generally don't agree with you a lot. On this specific topic I think you are wrong. There is no reason to have to put the website on the invite if the couple is including the same damn information as there would be on the site.

Jen4948

I think you're putting more hostility toward wedding websites than they warrant.

KPBM89

Honestly, I had no idea you could even have a wedding website until one of my best friends made one last year.  I always just asked the couple/ their rents/ other friends anything I didn't already know.  For my friend's, I looked at it a few times just so I could see where she was registered at, see if there was anything on there that wasn't on the invite (there wasn't) and leave a silly message in her guest book.  She listed in on her STD but not her invite.  I still remembered it though, because it's just lastnameandlastname.ourwedding.com.  Nothing changed on her site between STD time and invite time.  She is the only person whose wedding I have been to that had a site.   

We created a site.  We put it on the STD, but it will not be mentioned on the invite.  I mean, save the dates are usually saved at least for a while.  Most people stick theirs on their fridge or in an agenda or what have you (so if they can't remember the site, they probably held onto the STD somewhere to find it).  

Maggie0829

Jen4948 said:

I think you're putting more hostility toward wedding websites than they warrant.

And I think you are putting too much emphasis on the absolute need for a wedding website then is warranted.

Jen4948

Maggie0829 said:

Jen4948 said:

I think you're putting more hostility toward wedding websites than they warrant.

And I think you are putting too much emphasis on the absolute need for a wedding website then is warranted.

Then you misread, because I have always said that they are optional.  However, if some guests are not going to receive STDs but only invitations, then I still maintain that putting the website only on STDs means that guests who only receive invitations may miss out if the website contains information that they need, or updated information that was not available when the STDs went out.