I read somewhere that showers were only appropriate for first weddings, I don't mean PPD's, I mean first marriages. It's my first, but my FIs second. I'm the bride. My attendants want to throw me a shower, but I don't know if that's appropriate since it's not both of ours first marriage, only mine. I have also read that it's okay if it's the Brides first marriage but not the grooms.
Whether I want a shower or not is another topic entirely. I'm an older bride and have most of what I need to set up housekeeping. But if I do decide to let them give me one I wanted to know what the etiquette was. My family is clueless and generally a whole host of etiquette violations are gleefully overlooked (mother's giving daughter showers, showers for second, third, fourth babies, cash bars) and I'm trying to change the tide by making my wedding somewhat etiquette correct.