Curious if things have changed?

afox007

Needed a break from the insanity of family drama and realized from my last post that other people having similar problems helped. So i was going though the family matters forum on the nest and saw a question "would you date someone who smoke pot 2-3 times a week" the answers shocked me. Maybe it's that it was a few years old before it became somewhat legal or the fact that I grew up in california, but I'm curious as to what you ladies think?

chibiyui

I haven't read the thread, but it wouldn't bother me. I don't smoke myself but can't bring myself to give a fuck if someone else does. 

Now, in college I got antsy if someone wanted to smoke in my dorm room or while I was working on ed. cert, cause if you're within 30 feet of pot then you are screwed AND CAN NEVER TEACH, but otherwise who cares?

My FI doesn't like it though, and has said he wouldn't have dated me if I did. 

jdluvr06

I probably wouldn't care. I just don't find it to be that big of a deal.

hlvonb

I personally do not like it. I don't care if people smoke it. I have friends who do every now or then. But I don't think I could seriously date someone who did - mainly because of the field I work in. It's unfortunate but I have seen a woman lose a lot of respect her superiors had for her when they found out that her husband smoked pot. We can't prove it but we think it may have been a factor in why she did not get a promotion. 

bethsmiles

I have friends that smoke pot and I don't really mind but the smell does make me sick so I don't like to be around them when they do. But even though I don't care if my friends smoke pot, I really don't think I could seriously date someone who smoked pot. Just a personal preference.

HisGirlFriday13

I would not. I think pot should be legal, though.

I have a friend whose ex-BF smoked daily and it made him paranoid and snappish if he 'missed' a day. She ended up breaking up with him over it.

KytchynWitche

As far as I'm concerned, weed's the same as alcohol, and my "dating rule" is the same. If they became a different person when they smoked/drank, or they couldn't function normally because of it, then I wouldn't want to date them. If it was just something fun for them, that didn't affect their personality or functioning, then who am I to stop them?

thejucheidea

My dad smokes pot very regularly and I used to smoke it with a lot more regularity because it's really helpful for my anxiety and scoliosis-related shoulder and neck pain. We're both college educated people with good jobs who are socially fulfilled. My husband doesn't smoke pot, but he doesn't care at all if I do. I've smoked in front of him before and he just sits there doing his own thing because it's truly nbd.

I think that pot should be legalized for all purposes, but especially for medicinal purposes. I've seen first hand how much pot improves the quality of life of our end-stage cancer patients and am disgusted that we aren't permitted to prescribe marijuana to them, as it works much better than megestrol, marinol, opioids, benzos, et cetera to give them appetite, calmed nerves and pain relief.

kerbohl

As long as it is illegal, I wouldn't want to date someone who did it regularly, just because it is not one of those things that I would want someone to get into trouble with the police over.  However, I just lived in the Netherlands, where it is legal, and I have no problem with it there.  So I guess it isn't the pot smokers, but I have trouble with conscious law breakers. 

Edit:  I should point out that those who have a license are not breaking the law, and I have no issues with them either.  It can be helpful to people who need it.

southernbelle0915

I lump weed in with any other drug (alcohol, pills, etc.) - if it causes problems in living or they can't handle it in moderation, it's an issue. 

It's illegal for recreational purposes (where I live), but outside of that I personally don't have a problem with it. I used to smoke pretty regularly in high school and college. Now that I have a career where there's a potential for drug testing, I don't. I've never been tested or hear of anyone being tested, but it's just not worth the risk. 

I do think it should be legal. I think it's pretty clear that governments have realized that people are going to do it anyway, it actually costs them money to imprison people for related crimes, and they're missing out on a revenue stream by not taxing it. It's not like characters from "Reefer Madness" are going to take to the streets and cause pandemonium. 

climbingsingle

My FI smokes. It doesn't bother me at all. He's 40, owns his own business and contrary to what some people believe, it doesn't make him lazy in the slightest. I personally don't enjoy it myself though; I much prefer a glass of wine. I also believe it should be legal for all purposes. 

doeydo

I don't mind if people in general smoke pot, but I don't think I would like to date someone who did.

Swazzle

I have no problem with pot and I think it should be fully legalized. I don't smoke because I don't personally enjoy the feeling of being high (I'd rather have a drink) and if my H smoked here and there I wouldn't have a problem with it. 

ashleyep

I would have in college. It sounds really silly, I know, but to me it seems like kind of a lame thing to do as a grown adult with a full time job. But it's also not legal in my state, so I don't want to deal with it in my house.

I think it should be legalized though.

ETA: I'm not sure I'd want to date a cigarette smoker either though. Can't stand the smell. I don't hate the smell of weed though, ha.

cruffino

nope. i think pot is fun for a party or hanging out, but not as a regular habit. its medicating something else. also, would be a big no no for my job and FH's job, so it wouldn't work for either one of us.

KPBM89

FI and I don't smoke pot, but I think if he did only every now and then I wouldn't have a problem with it.  I also think it should be legal.  I would have a much bigger problem if someone smoked cigarettes (I get very sick around the smell of cigarette smoke from an allergy to it, but the smell of weed hasn't ever bothered me).  That's just me though.

smalfrie19

I live in a state where it is legalized. I don't care that people do it. My BFF/MOH does it. But I couldn't date someone who did because I cannot STAND the smell. Now if someone wants to use a vaporizer and THC..all the power to you and I could be around that.

natswild

I had the same experience as @HisGirlFriday-my ex-BF was a heavy user, and I cannot stand the smell (can't handle cig smoke either)

ShallowSeas

I don't have a problem with people smoking pot. To each his own. I personally don't like it for myself but I have friends that do and that's fine. I would not be happy if FI smoked, especially if he did it around me or in our house. That being said, I wouldnt have a problem with it being legalized.

My friend smoked A LOT in college and continued until he and his now-wife got married. She did not like it and asked him to stop. Immediately after the wedding he quit smoking, however she doesn't mind if he bakes it into brownies or uses the oil-based stuff (?) in things, so he does that instead.

melbelleup

I've dated someone who is a pot head for three years he also smoked cigs and drank regularly. In college, it didn't bother me. I didn't smoke, didn't like it, but I didn't preach my beliefs on to others. When thinking of forever and marriage however, I would never want to marry a pot head or have kids around it.

ETA: by pot head, I mean he smokes it every other day if not every day.

WinstonsGirl

I wouldn't, but I wouldn't date anyone who smoked anything - cigarettes, pipes, cigars, pot, etc.  I don't want the second hand smoke of anything going into my lungs too, nor do I want the smell around me.  As for people I'm not dating/married to, I could care less if they smoke or not.  

Viczaesar

WinstonsGirl said:

I wouldn't, but I wouldn't date anyone who smoked anything - cigarettes, pipes, cigars, pot, etc.  I don't want the second hand smoke of anything going into my lungs too, nor do I want the smell around me.  As for people I'm not dating/married to, I could care less if they smoke or not.  

This.

JCbride2015

Viczaesar said:

WinstonsGirl said:

I wouldn't, but I wouldn't date anyone who smoked anything - cigarettes, pipes, cigars, pot, etc.  I don't want the second hand smoke of anything going into my lungs too, nor do I want the smell around me.  As for people I'm not dating/married to, I could care less if they smoke or not.  

This.

The same.

photokitty

I don't date smokers, period. Cigarettes, weed pipes, cigars or otherwise. I can't stand the smell or the taste. Or cheering tobacco, again with the taste. YUCK!

jlazgrl

I would much rather date someone who smokes every day than someone who drinks every day.

thisismynickname2

missax said:

I, personally, would never date/marry someone who smoked weed (or even cigarettes). I don't think they should be banned or illegal but I just don't want that in my house. Luckily for me my husband feels the same way.  

This. It smells awful, and cig smoke makes me sneeze.

Blergbot

Er...since I do it myself, on occasion, yes.

vt&dt

I could be friends with someone who did (but probably would choose to not be around when they did), but don't think I could date someone who did.  I have always thought of dating as going towards a serious relationship or marriage and I personally don't like being around smoking (of any kind) - I'd consider that a deal-breaker. 

RebeccaB88

Absolute, 100% dealbreaker here, smoking pot or anything else. (Unless the guy owns a meat smoker, that would be awesome.) I don't want to be around pot or people who have recently smoked it, nor do I want it in my home, nor do I want high people in my home, no will I go to a home where people smoke/are smoking it. What people do in their own homes is their business and I don't say anything about it, but if I know they have pot in their home I don't go there. My choice. If I'm somewhere and they bring it out, I leave. My choice. Smoking anything (pot, tobacco, peyote, etc) is a dealbreaker from the beginning and always will be. Yes, I'm drug tested at work and I have a medical condition that many, many people swear is helped by smoking pot, but I will not do it. I'll be bedridden in pain first. I'm not totally convinced of it's safety or that it's NBD and I don't think it should be legal recreationally. Medically I'm on the fence about because I still think it can do more harm than good, but I'm open to more research on the subject. I just don't think we know enough yet. And the habitual pot smokers I know aren't people I really like or enjoy hanging out with.