so you konw that couple that are having a destination wedding? The ones that invited us, but they aren't even on our guest list. Well- I was just invited to her shower as well- in Maine!! WTH!? Its a thing of the past to invite every single female guest to your shower- at least I *think* you only invite close friends and family to showers now. but either way- theres no way I can go- I dont evenknow her all that well! Are they just trying to get a gift? They know theres no way we could go to their wedding or shower- so anyway.... do I need to send a gift for the shower? (we're def sending one for the wedding)