I want to 'Irish Goodbye' at my own party

mrsconn23

Dear Prudie,
Over the holidays my wife and I will be hosting some parties. Slate had an article about the “Irish goodbye” in which guests don’t announce their departure, but just slip out the door. I like to do something similar as host. Some guests, particularly close friends, like to stay forever at my house because they are having a grand time. I am usually tired after having set up, cleaned, cooked, etc. They are great friends and I completely trust them in my home while I am asleep. Rather than kick these friends out “early,” around midnight I go to sleep and let them stay as long as they like. I have received harsh criticism from my wife and these friends that this is very rude. Am I a bad host?

—Party Pooper

ReturnOfKuus

I do this, sort of.  Well, actually I yawn loudly, put on pajamas, and eventually just tell them I'm going to bed and they should lock up when they leave, because I have guests who always overstay their welcome.  Think a party that starts at 2pm, and they're still there at 3am.

baconsmom

Why doesn't he just tell them to leave? Or am I probably correct in assuming that they'll label anything other than entertaining them till dawn as "rude"? 

This is why Katemas is so great: we all have to be at church at 10, anyway. No one can stay. 

VarunaTT

I've thrown people out and I've also just gone to sleep while they were there.  It doesn't really bother me.  But it's usually very close friends, if it was like....a brand new, never before met you guest, I'd probably call them a taxi or something.