Save The Dates?

adnam08manda

My fiancé and I have chosen a venue for the wedding. It's about forty five minutes from his hometown and three hours from mine. Is that far enough distance wise to send Save The Dates to my family? I would think so but I am wondering about his also? I hear it is most commonly done for destination weddings but what is considered a "destination"? Just need a little direction. Thank you!!!

ShallowSeas

Most people I have known send them out regardless of the distance as just a heads up of the date in case they need to take that day off from work or to make sure they don't schedule anything on that day.

adnam08manda

I had thought of that also. Just wasn't sure if we absolutely had to because of cost.

ashleyep

You never absolutely have to send them. You can just as easily call or email all of your family members with the date and information about accommodations.

adnam08manda

I believe most of them know but I think I will do a few just to send to grandparents or anyone who easily forgets things or is super busy! 

peggerzz

we didn't send as many STD's as we plan to send invites.  we sent them to family and people traveling that we really wanted to be sure are there.

melbelleup

peggerzz said:

we didn't send as many STD's as we plan to send invites.  we sent them to family and people traveling that we really wanted to be sure are there.

This is what we did too. I sent them to my parents, uncles & aunts, grandparents and siblings. On my FI's side (he lives 3 hrs from venue) we sent them to everyone on his guest list because they are all over the country.

ETA: Like PP you do not have to send them at all. Just let at least immediate family know the date via in person, on the phone, e-mail, text etc. And you most definitely do not have to nor should you send it to your entire guest list.

Save the date = invite

Once you send it, they're invited, no taking it back.

EverAfer

We sent STDs to OOTs and VIPs. It was good for people we don't talk to often (extended family) or those traveling, and they need to make plans early. Alot of people knew our dates, just because we're close enough and they see us often enough to ask.

But we don't send to everyone on our invite list unless they're in the category above or are 100% invited. We sent to some of FI's friends because he really wanted to, and a few of my friends who travel extensively for work.

If you are trying to avoid the expense and can let your VIPs and family know, then it really isn't required.

tcgalieti

What fraction of your guest list did you send a save the date? We're shooting for 150 guests... Should we send them to closer to 75 or 125 people? Almost everyone lives 2+ hours away.

adnam08manda

Well all of our guest live at least an hour away from the ceremony/reception site so we are sending them to all. Our list is 120 but after looking it over and seeing who all lived together we only had to buy 50 STD's.