In daily dress, neither my mom nor my fiances mom dress up much. They are typically quite casual. We live 1500 miles from my parents so I haven't actually seen what my mom plans to wear for the wedding yet. His mom is much older and doesn't drive so I tried to be nice and took her shopping yesterday. It was quite a different experience from what I expected.
While she is normally not very outgoing and just politely shakes her head when she doesn't like something I was not prepared for the vehement "that is ugly" and loud outbursts followed by leaving the store when I suggested outfits.
After three stores and 90 minutes I finally got her to tell me somewhat of what she is looking for in an outfit. The problem is she doesn't like anything in dept store plus size formal wear. I'm afraid that she is going to end up in something way more formal than my own mother is wearing. She specifically told me that she can't be seen in anything that her family won't like or will make fun of. Which hurt because apparently it's not the same as her telling me everything I like is ugly. I know that we will never wear the same clothes, but i honestly wasn't prepared for this outing and have no idea how to help her now.