Dealing with "wedding stress"

khuotari28

Hi all,

I was going to just write the following concerns on my blog, but I decided it would be much better to get feedback from my fellow brides! I have been engaged for about 4 months and the big day is 6 months away. We have the: venue, caterer, DJ, florist, photographer, dress, and in actuality are WAY ahead of the game. It has been fun up until this point but now my biggest concern is: am I capable of designing a gorgeous wedding and have enough things to keep everyone entertained/happy? Simultaneously I am telling myself, "You should have ______ and _______ too!" and "Slow down, relax, you have enough". I am just wondering you all have gotten yourself through these scary, overwhelming moments.

Much love,

Katherine

pumpkinsandturkeys

I remind myself that it's primarily about US and not everyone else. If I think that I would be entertained and think everything is beautiful, then my guests will, too. You can't please everyone, but you can always please yourself. Yes, you are a hostess as well as a celebrant that day, and you owe it to your guests to make sure that they have a fabulous time. However, you do NOT have to do anything just to compete with other weddings or because you're afraid that there will be half a second where your guests actually have to TALK to each other instead of being caught up in some kind of spectacle or activity. When you feel like you want to add something else, write it down on a piece of paper. Come back to that list once a week and really ask yourself, 'Do I NEED this?' and really be honest with yourself. Engage your FI in it, too, and get his feedback. Good luck!

pinkcow13

Congrats on your engagement! Yes, sit back, relax, and enjoy this time. If you enjoy yourself at your wedding, your guests will too. Yes, you cannot please everyone, so don't stress the little things. It sounds like you are way ahead of the game! I do get myself caught up in those moments myself, but ultimately I know that it will fall together into place Happy planning!

Kerigirl9

Congratulations!! I'm in a similar place where I have a lot done but every time I turn around (thank you TK!!) I think of something else I might like to do or another idea starts floating around in my head. I keep a list on my ipad of all those items so that 1. I won't forget something and 2. I can go back (as @pumpkinsandturkeys suggested) and decide if these are things really want to do. Rejected ideas go in the "rejected idea pile" and the ones that are still being considered stay on the main list. Seems to be working so far because now i don't have a million things rattling around in my head. For me it's much more manageable when I can see it in writing.