Telling everyone

JaniV123

So I have no idea hiw to start telling everyone we are engaged! His family knew/knows so thats not a problem. Tomorrow we are thinking of going to eat diner and tell my mom and tell her not to tell everyone so we can tell then on christmas eve when we see everybody. But how?! Any tips?

manateehugger

"We're engaged!"

That's all I got. 

LizM61409

Call her and tell her he proposed. It's not very complicated. Don't make Christmas eve all about you. People will still congratulate you then even if they found out ahead of time.

JCbride2015

If you're going to see your mom in person tomorrow anyway, it might be nice to tell her then.  Otherwise just call her.  We called our parents, sisters, and best friends in the middle of the night when Fi proposed.  We called the rest of the family the next day.

Agree with Liz, don't make the announcement on Christmas Eve, especially because that's still so far away.  You should just tell your family asap!  They will still give you congratulations and best wishes when they see you at Christmas.

pumpkinsandturkeys

I wanted to tell my parents in person rather than over the phone, so we had to wait about 5 days before we could drive down there. It was hard keeping it a secret, but I'm glad I got to tell them face-to-face. My sister then facebooked a photo of my ring, announcing our engagement, while we were still over there, so that's how everyone else found out (I was a little cheesed then, but it's funny now). It doesn't need to be some big affair when you tell everyone, and you don't need to say it in some special way. Just tell people when it feels right, as opposed to feeling like you have to 'create a moment.'

climbingsingle

I got engaged in Europe so I called my parents right away. When I got home, I called the rest of my friends, my brother and my cousins. I also told my mom to spread the word to the rest of the family. Easy.

HisGirlFriday13

DH proposed Dec. 21. We told my parents, in-person, on Christmas Eve, with my brother, SIL, and nephew there. 

We told his BSC grandmother a few days later, mostly because we wanted the first people we told to be happy for us (my parents were; she wasn't).

After we told my parents, we started calling or texting our friends (depending on how we usually communicate with them), and then a few days later, we changed our FB statuses to "engaged." 

That's all we did. I didn't ever FB a photo of my engagement ring, just because it's NMS., but I don't judge people who do (within reason).

misssunshine17

JCBride2014 said:

If you're going to see your mom in person tomorrow anyway, it might be nice to tell her then.  Otherwise just call her.  We called our parents, sisters, and best friends in the middle of the night when Fi proposed.  We called the rest of the family the next day.

Agree with Liz, don't make the announcement on Christmas Eve, especially because that's still so far away.  You should just tell your family asap!  They will still give you congratulations and best wishes when they see you at Christmas.

I'm in this camp. Also, before you post on facebook, make sure you tell everyone you wish prior. Many people think it is hurtful to find out through social media. 

jdluvr06

In my family (and I mean my whole family, great aunts, uncles, second cousins ect) we tend to tell immediate family first and then announce it to the whole family at whatever gathering is next. My whole family gets together for family reunions about 6 times a year, sometimes more so there is always something coming up.

WinstonsGirl

We told my parents first, since he didn't ask their permission and wasn't sure if they'd be upset or not (not, my Dad didn't ask Mom's parents either), then his family that night.  Friends, we just told whenever we saw them.  My relationship status isn't posted on FB, and I've never put it in in the first place, so it was all in person

KPBM89

I called my mom to tell her first.  After that, FI called his parents to tell them.  Then I sent a picture to my best friends, who are actually all now my BMs, of my ring and said "Guess What?!" After that, FI called his best friend to tell him.  We let our moms gush over it to other family members (we were on vacation at the time) until all the aunts/ uncles and such knew.  We made sure everyone in our families knew and our close friends before we posted anything on social media.  I made sure once we got back from vacation to show my coworkers, too, because I was very close with them.  It was nice holding off with social media because we got to enjoy the initial joy of being engaged with just us and those close to us.  A little while later, we posted it on FB and it was like a second celebration getting calls and messages from people.

lizandmark2014

We told his parents, then mine. I asked them to spread the word.

doeydo

LizM61409 said:

Call her and tell her he proposed. It's not very complicated. Don't make Christmas eve all about you. People will still congratulate you then even if they found out ahead of time.

This.

StephJean83

We were engaged on Dec. 21st and since my parents live out of state, I called them. FH called FMIL and told her he was "proposing" on Christmas day. My mom called my sisters and told them and I called both to tell and they broke it to me that mom had told them. I asked both not to say anything as we hadn't told FILs yet and surprisingly one of my sisters did keep quiet.

On Christmas morning after we open presents with FILs, FH gave me a box from the jeweler that had chocolate in it vs the ring. FMIL kept telling FH to get on one knee and when he wouldn't and I pulled out the chocolate, I think she almost died. FH gave her a present to open and it was a picture frame of FH proposing the previous Friday. She called one of her sisters and it spread through the family.

I called or text my friends who I tell everything to right away, the day after he proposed. FH called two of his best friends Christmas night once we told his parents. We called our roommate after my parents since he helped FH with the surprise.

pinkcow13

I texted my best friend, then texted close friends. I called my mom a few hours later because I didn't know how she react. My parents were pretty strict and we have not always seen eye to eye. My FI is close to his mom and I assumed she knew, so I posted it on FB, plus she's not on it. Big mistake. As she found out like minutes later through the grapevine. But she got over it, and it's all good:) I agree with others, Christmas Eve is so far away.

JaniV123

jdluvr06 said:

In my family (and I mean my whole family, great aunts, uncles, second cousins ect) we tend to tell immediate family first and then announce it to the whole family at whatever gathering is next. My whole family gets together for family reunions about 6 times a year, sometimes more so there is always something coming up.

This is exactly hiw my family is! Since his family knew it was going on we told them first that i said yes, and it was super sweet. Tomorrow we tell my mom and maybe my dad and since its really just a few more days we wanted to wait till everyone got together on christmas eve. My grandma wont arrive until the 23 and i wouldnt like for her to find out over the phone. Thank you every for sharing your stories and advice! I will update on how it goes!

melbelleup

I picked up the phone and called my dad, my brothers, my grandpa, my grandma and my 1 uncle. The rest of my family found out through the grapevine (my parents, gparents, uncle) and my friends found out via facebook. It's not that hard at all

ShallowSeas

We called family and close friends first and let them know. Then I sent them all pictures of the ring since they all wanted to see it. After we let everyone know who was close to us, we posted it on Facebook so our friends would know.

PolarBearFitz

Here is my genius master ninja time plan for spreading important news:

Go see the people that matter (family first), if you can't see them in person then call, if you cannot call then email or text.

audubonbride2013

We facetimed with my parents to tell them and already had plans with H's parents later in the day so we told them then.  Everyone else we called or texted.  We waited a week before we changed our relationship status on FB to make sure all our closest friends and family found out from us.

JaniV123

aefitz29 said:

Here is my genius master ninja time plan for spreading important news:

Go see the people that matter (family first), if you can't see them in person then call, if you cannot call then email or text.

Thats exactly how we are/want it to be!

JaniV123

Dinner with my mom went so much bettert hanw ee xpected, she was excited and everything. She actually told us that my uncles had thought of doing a little party for us once we tookt hat choice but they hadnt told FI so no we are just going to go visit important people and have a little gathering on monday to tell my grandma. We prefer personally that over phone or text. And i actually remembered that about 3-4 of my cousins that have gotten engaged the past few christmases have also announced it at christmas festivities so. Thank you all for the advice, we would have been so much more nervous without it!!