this is the code for the render ad
Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat
Chit Chat
New Discussion

*headdesk*

smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 500 Love Its Combo Breaker
in Chit Chat

How do you go about convincing a friend that having a shower for her second baby when her first just turned ONE is a bad idea?

I don't know how many ways I can tell her the word shower essentially means "bring me gifts".

She thinks every baby deserves to be celebrated and I am all on board with that! But a SHOWER is not the way....

Anniversary
image
Report Reply to Post

Re: *headdesk*

  • LizM61409LizM61409 member
    250 Love Its 100 Comments Name Dropper First Anniversary
    Well to have a shower someone is supposed to throw you one. Is there a willing shower-thrower in this case? If she''s arranging it all herself she gets a double *headdesk* And I definitely would not attend if it were me
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
    Report Reply
  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 500 Love Its Combo Breaker
    LizM61409 said:
    Well to have a shower someone is supposed to throw you one. Is there a willing shower-thrower in this case? If she''s arranging it all herself she gets a double *headdesk* And I definitely would not attend if it were me

    Her husband's family wants to throw her a shower. But I am trying to persuade her to decline and instead just have a baby themed celebration and not bill it as a "shower". People who want to give gifts will regardless... but to me a shower will make people feel obligated to bring gifts.
    Anniversary
    image
    Report Reply
  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its Fourth Anniversary 5 Answers
    How far apart are her babies? That's the only reason I don't judge second baby showers for #2 if they're 5+ years apart. Not even the other gender. 

    However, the ship said a year and a month ago for this greedy mama. I'm firmly in the camp that once the child is born, there is no more window for a shower.
    Report Reply
  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 500 Love Its Combo Breaker
    misssunshine17 said:
    How far apart are her babies? That's the only reason I don't judge second baby showers for #2 if they're 5+ years apart. Not even the other gender. 

    However, the ship said a year and a month ago for this greedy mama. I'm firmly in the camp that once the child is born, there is no more window for a shower.

    her first just turned a year in November and her second is due in may.
    Anniversary
    image
    Report Reply
  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
    2500 Comments 500 Love Its Fourth Anniversary 5 Answers
    Oops, reading fail. I guess I thought she wanted to have a shower for her one year old. Didn't realize she was pregnant. Yeah, that's still a big negative. People will give her gifts if they want to. Knowing me, I'd probably plan on giving one, but if they threw a shower, I would decide not to.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards