Save the dates (mini vent)

hlvonb

So I told myself that I was not sending our save the dates out until the week of Christmas (after Christmas day). I was really bored a few weeks ago so I had them done and addressed before the end of November.

I have slight OCD so seeing them sitting there was bugging me because my mind was like they're all addressed and stamped you need to mail them now. I ended up having my FI hide them on me so I didn't see them or know where they are.

Well I was cleaning the apartment the other day and found where he hid them. Now I am fighting the urge to mail them. Ugh lol

afox007

Lol I wish I was that proactive I finally got my Xmas cards from Vistaprint on Saturday and I still have not addressed them!

HisGirlFriday13

Ugggh. That would drive me crazy, too!

I had all of our Christmas cards addressed, sealed, and ready to go by Nov. 30. Then they sat on our side board for a week as I waited to get the time to go to the post office and get Christmas stamps. 

They finally got mailed the first week of December, but DH definitely spent a week listening to me rant about them being ready but it being too early to send them.

KPBM89

We (meaning I) had all of our save the dates addressed and sealed, ready to go out, for almost 2 weeks.  The only reason I didn't send them was because I was waiting for FI to get his brother's address.  I wanted to put them all in the mail at once and he took forever to ask his brother.  Drove me absolutely nuts not being able to send them!

hlvonb

afox007 said:

Lol I wish I was that proactive I finally got my Xmas cards from Vistaprint on Saturday and I still have not addressed them!

@afox007

I sent my Christmas cards out a week ago lol.

hlvonb

HisGirlFriday13 said:

Ugggh. That would drive me crazy, too!

I had all of our Christmas cards addressed, sealed, and ready to go by Nov. 30. Then they sat on our side board for a week as I waited to get the time to go to the post office and get Christmas stamps. 

They finally got mailed the first week of December, but DH definitely spent a week listening to me rant about them being ready but it being too early to send them.

@HisGirlFriday13

That's how I was too and how I am with the Save the dates. My Christmas cards got mailed last week

hlvonb

hoppersgirl25 said:

We (meaning I) had all of our save the dates addressed and sealed, ready to go out, for almost 2 weeks.  The only reason I didn't send them was because I was waiting for FI to get his brother's address.  I wanted to put them all in the mail at once and he took forever to ask his brother.  Drove me absolutely nuts not being able to send them!

@hoppersgirl25

That would bug me too if I was waiting on 1 address.

KytchynWitche

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

hlvonb

urbaneca said:

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

@urbaneca

Yeah you have time still. And it's a good idea not to really start on them unless you have the guest list finalized

KytchynWitche

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

@urbaneca

Yeah you have time still. And it's a good idea not to really start on them unless you have the guest list finalized

We're mostly set, there's just a couple of people who we're not 100% on yet (my dad and his sister). I'm in two minds about it. Part of me says he made his choice and to hell with him, but part of me says I should be the bigger person and extend him the invite, for him and him only. His sister is my godmother, but we honestly haven't had much contact in years, she lives in Zambia so she would have to travel and I'd feel pretty weird inviting her if I'm not inviting my dad - especially as she's about the only person left in the family who actually gets on with stepmom. Maybe I'll just add her to the announcements list?

karlipregler

I'm having the same issue with my invitations...I have them all addressed and stamped and ready to go, but I refuse to send them out until at least after Christmas. I really want to send them out because the sooner I can get responses back, the better for me knowing where I'm at with pricing!

PolarBearFitz

I have yet to send out my Christmas cards or even write them. They are sitting on my counter but have been untouched. They are definitely going to be late this year. 100% my fault for procrastinating like a champ due to 'insert stressful work situation excuse here.'

Past aefitz29 should have done her Christmas cards when she pulled out the decorations...fail.

afox007

aefitz29 said:

I have yet to send out my Christmas cards or even write them. They are sitting on my counter but have been untouched. They are definitely going to be late this year. 100% my fault for procrastinating like a champ due to 'insert stressful work situation excuse here.'

Past aefitz29 should have done her Christmas cards when she pulled out the decorations...fail.

I'm glad I'm not alone on this! I blame FI though he wants to do them together, but he doesn't know who he wants to send them to since his family is really small. 

CLI242009

hlvonb said:

hoppersgirl25 said:

We (meaning I) had all of our save the dates addressed and sealed, ready to go out, for almost 2 weeks.  The only reason I didn't send them was because I was waiting for FI to get his brother's address.  I wanted to put them all in the mail at once and he took forever to ask his brother.  Drove me absolutely nuts not being able to send them!

@hoppersgirl25

That would bug me too if I was waiting on 1 address.

Basically same thing happened to me as well. Had everything all set to go except for 1 uncle who just wouldn't get back to any of us!! (I asked my mom and dad (it was his brother) for help to get the address). It took like 2 weeks for him to finally answer!!

hlvonb

urbaneca said:

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

@urbaneca

Yeah you have time still. And it's a good idea not to really start on them unless you have the guest list finalized

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

@urbaneca

Yeah you have time still. And it's a good idea not to really start on them unless you have the guest list finalized

We're mostly set, there's just a couple of people who we're not 100% on yet (my dad and his sister). I'm in two minds about it. Part of me says he made his choice and to hell with him, but part of me says I should be the bigger person and extend him the invite, for him and him only. His sister is my godmother, but we honestly haven't had much contact in years, she lives in Zambia so she would have to travel and I'd feel pretty weird inviting her if I'm not inviting my dad - especially as she's about the only person left in the family who actually gets on with stepmom. Maybe I'll just add her to the announcements list?

@urbaneca

I had that same situation when doing our guest list. I ended up adding them and I will leave it up to them as to whether or not they attend. I figured, I would rather send the invitation than deal with the drama that could possibly come from not inviting them.

hlvonb

karlipregler said:

I'm having the same issue with my invitations...I have them all addressed and stamped and ready to go, but I refuse to send them out until at least after Christmas. I really want to send them out because the sooner I can get responses back, the better for me knowing where I'm at with pricing!

@karlipregler

Oh my.... don't get me going about invitations. Lol. I think I will be worse about wanting to get them mailed than I am about the save the dates. Lol. We may have to hide those at my parents house.

hlvonb

aefitz29 said:

I have yet to send out my Christmas cards or even write them. They are sitting on my counter but have been untouched. They are definitely going to be late this year. 100% my fault for procrastinating like a champ due to 'insert stressful work situation excuse here.'

Past aefitz29 should have done her Christmas cards when she pulled out the decorations...fail.

@aefitz29

I am the opposite. I tend to send them out too soon....

hlvonb

CLI242009 said:

hlvonb said:

hoppersgirl25 said:

We (meaning I) had all of our save the dates addressed and sealed, ready to go out, for almost 2 weeks.  The only reason I didn't send them was because I was waiting for FI to get his brother's address.  I wanted to put them all in the mail at once and he took forever to ask his brother.  Drove me absolutely nuts not being able to send them!

@hoppersgirl25

That would bug me too if I was waiting on 1 address.

Basically same thing happened to me as well. Had everything all set to go except for 1 uncle who just wouldn't get back to any of us!! (I asked my mom and dad (it was his brother) for help to get the address). It took like 2 weeks for him to finally answer!!

@CLI242009

That would annoy the hell out of me. Lol

CLI242009

hlvonb said:

CLI242009 said:

hlvonb said:

hoppersgirl25 said:

We (meaning I) had all of our save the dates addressed and sealed, ready to go out, for almost 2 weeks.  The only reason I didn't send them was because I was waiting for FI to get his brother's address.  I wanted to put them all in the mail at once and he took forever to ask his brother.  Drove me absolutely nuts not being able to send them!

@hoppersgirl25

That would bug me too if I was waiting on 1 address.

Basically same thing happened to me as well. Had everything all set to go except for 1 uncle who just wouldn't get back to any of us!! (I asked my mom and dad (it was his brother) for help to get the address). It took like 2 weeks for him to finally answer!!

@CLI242009

That would annoy the hell out of me. Lol

Something more annoying than that? Going to the last resort and contacting him on facebook via private message and SEEING the seen check mark @ X time....and still. no. answer!!!!! We tried calling him first. My father did email, hell even asked their other brothers, who live in the area to make sure nothing had happened to him. 2 weeks after the phone calls, voicemails, emails and facebook message my dad finally gets a frickin answer >.> The moment i got it i put those envelopes in the drop box! hahaha

hlvonb

CLI242009 said:

hlvonb said:

CLI242009 said:

hlvonb said:

hoppersgirl25 said:

We (meaning I) had all of our save the dates addressed and sealed, ready to go out, for almost 2 weeks.  The only reason I didn't send them was because I was waiting for FI to get his brother's address.  I wanted to put them all in the mail at once and he took forever to ask his brother.  Drove me absolutely nuts not being able to send them!

@hoppersgirl25

That would bug me too if I was waiting on 1 address.

Basically same thing happened to me as well. Had everything all set to go except for 1 uncle who just wouldn't get back to any of us!! (I asked my mom and dad (it was his brother) for help to get the address). It took like 2 weeks for him to finally answer!!

@CLI242009

That would annoy the hell out of me. Lol

Something more annoying than that? Going to the last resort and contacting him on facebook via private message and SEEING the seen check mark @ X time....and still. no. answer!!!!! We tried calling him first. My father did email, hell even asked their other brothers, who live in the area to make sure nothing had happened to him. 2 weeks after the phone calls, voicemails, emails and facebook message my dad finally gets a frickin answer >.> The moment i got it i put those envelopes in the drop box! hahaha

@CLI242009

Ugh.... lol

CLI242009

hlvonb - Same uncle asked if he could bring his 2 adult daughters to the wedding. They are from his first marriage and I have never met them. So I do not know them. I told him no and he said okay. This was all facebook message. Found out from my mom, same uncle spoke to my dad and was complaining. Apparently my uncles (my dad's side) think that my wedding is going to be a big family reunion and they were pestering my parents as to why I wasn't inviting certain people. Not sure why but my uncles had this idea that my parents could make me do what was "right".

My dad's side of the family, I am not sure if they've just never been to a formal wedding or to a wedding ever but they all thought my save the date was the invitation. I put Save the Date on it...and even said formal invite to follow. >.> Yeah....I'm not sure about my family haha

hlvonb

CLI242009 said:

hlvonb - Same uncle asked if he could bring his 2 adult daughters to the wedding. They are from his first marriage and I have never met them. So I do not know them. I told him no and he said okay. This was all facebook message. Found out from my mom, same uncle spoke to my dad and was complaining. Apparently my uncles (my dad's side) think that my wedding is going to be a big family reunion and they were pestering my parents as to why I wasn't inviting certain people. Not sure why but my uncles had this idea that my parents could make me do what was "right".

My dad's side of the family, I am not sure if they've just never been to a formal wedding or to a wedding ever but they all thought my save the date was the invitation. I put Save the Date on it...and even said formal invite to follow. >.> Yeah....I'm not sure about my family haha

@CLI242009

Wow. Your uncle sounds like he's crazy lol. I don't know if I would want my wedding to be a family reunion haha. Yes there are people from the family we are not inviting simply because I don't even know their names and when I do see them every 2 or 3 years I fake knowing who the hell they are. Lol

CLI242009

hlvonb said:

CLI242009 said:

hlvonb - Same uncle asked if he could bring his 2 adult daughters to the wedding. They are from his first marriage and I have never met them. So I do not know them. I told him no and he said okay. This was all facebook message. Found out from my mom, same uncle spoke to my dad and was complaining. Apparently my uncles (my dad's side) think that my wedding is going to be a big family reunion and they were pestering my parents as to why I wasn't inviting certain people. Not sure why but my uncles had this idea that my parents could make me do what was "right".

My dad's side of the family, I am not sure if they've just never been to a formal wedding or to a wedding ever but they all thought my save the date was the invitation. I put Save the Date on it...and even said formal invite to follow. >.> Yeah....I'm not sure about my family haha

@CLI242009

Wow. Your uncle sounds like he's crazy lol. I don't know if I would want my wedding to be a family reunion haha. Yes there are people from the family we are not inviting simply because I don't even know their names and when I do see them every 2 or 3 years I fake knowing who the hell they are. Lol

I know there are some people out there that have no problem doing that with their weddings. Especially if they are all close with their extended families.

The thing that was bugging me with my uncles is this: You know how you have family friends that you call "Uncle John" and "Aunt Jane" but they are not related to you by blood. Just very close family friends/friends of your parents. Well these were the people my Uncles were wondering why I WASN'T inviting them. Even my cousins (their kids) got in on this. I had to go to my mom and ask "Who the heck are these people??!" My mom had to clarify who they were and say yes I have never met them in my entire life. They are uncles and aunts to your cousins but not to you. *face palm* My uncle and cousins are under the impression because they know them, then they should be invited. Since they are "family" but they don't understand that they are not family to everyone just THEM. *sighs*

My father's side of the family ummm well they are very laid back and the more the merrier type. To put it nicely haha

hlvonb

CLI242009 said:

hlvonb said:

CLI242009 said:

hlvonb - Same uncle asked if he could bring his 2 adult daughters to the wedding. They are from his first marriage and I have never met them. So I do not know them. I told him no and he said okay. This was all facebook message. Found out from my mom, same uncle spoke to my dad and was complaining. Apparently my uncles (my dad's side) think that my wedding is going to be a big family reunion and they were pestering my parents as to why I wasn't inviting certain people. Not sure why but my uncles had this idea that my parents could make me do what was "right".

My dad's side of the family, I am not sure if they've just never been to a formal wedding or to a wedding ever but they all thought my save the date was the invitation. I put Save the Date on it...and even said formal invite to follow. >.> Yeah....I'm not sure about my family haha

@CLI242009

Wow. Your uncle sounds like he's crazy lol. I don't know if I would want my wedding to be a family reunion haha. Yes there are people from the family we are not inviting simply because I don't even know their names and when I do see them every 2 or 3 years I fake knowing who the hell they are. Lol

I know there are some people out there that have no problem doing that with their weddings. Especially if they are all close with their extended families.

The thing that was bugging me with my uncles is this: You know how you have family friends that you call "Uncle John" and "Aunt Jane" but they are not related to you by blood. Just very close family friends/friends of your parents. Well these were the people my Uncles were wondering why I WASN'T inviting them. Even my cousins (their kids) got in on this. I had to go to my mom and ask "Who the heck are these people??!" My mom had to clarify who they were and say yes I have never met them in my entire life. They are uncles and aunts to your cousins but not to you. *face palm* My uncle and cousins are under the impression because they know them, then they should be invited. Since they are "family" but they don't understand that they are not family to everyone just THEM. *sighs*

My father's side of the family ummm well they are very laid back and the more the merrier type. To put it nicely haha

Yeah that's annoying when it happens!

KytchynWitche

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

@urbaneca

Yeah you have time still. And it's a good idea not to really start on them unless you have the guest list finalized

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

@urbaneca

Yeah you have time still. And it's a good idea not to really start on them unless you have the guest list finalized

We're mostly set, there's just a couple of people who we're not 100% on yet (my dad and his sister). I'm in two minds about it. Part of me says he made his choice and to hell with him, but part of me says I should be the bigger person and extend him the invite, for him and him only. His sister is my godmother, but we honestly haven't had much contact in years, she lives in Zambia so she would have to travel and I'd feel pretty weird inviting her if I'm not inviting my dad - especially as she's about the only person left in the family who actually gets on with stepmom. Maybe I'll just add her to the announcements list?

@urbaneca

I had that same situation when doing our guest list. I ended up adding them and I will leave it up to them as to whether or not they attend. I figured, I would rather send the invitation than deal with the drama that could possibly come from not inviting them.

You're probably right. I'll put him on the guest list, and just enclose a handwritten note with the invitation. I think I'll put godmother on the announcements list though.

hlvonb

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

@urbaneca

Yeah you have time still. And it's a good idea not to really start on them unless you have the guest list finalized

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

I haven't even started on the STDs yet, but we're still 10 months out so I've got time. We wouldn't be having STDs at all except the FI has a lot of family overseas who he wants to invite.

I'm DIYing our stationery, and I'm trying to get our invitation design down first, before I do the rest of the suite. That and there's still some to-and-fro over the guest list.

@urbaneca

Yeah you have time still. And it's a good idea not to really start on them unless you have the guest list finalized

We're mostly set, there's just a couple of people who we're not 100% on yet (my dad and his sister). I'm in two minds about it. Part of me says he made his choice and to hell with him, but part of me says I should be the bigger person and extend him the invite, for him and him only. His sister is my godmother, but we honestly haven't had much contact in years, she lives in Zambia so she would have to travel and I'd feel pretty weird inviting her if I'm not inviting my dad - especially as she's about the only person left in the family who actually gets on with stepmom. Maybe I'll just add her to the announcements list?

@urbaneca

I had that same situation when doing our guest list. I ended up adding them and I will leave it up to them as to whether or not they attend. I figured, I would rather send the invitation than deal with the drama that could possibly come from not inviting them.

You're probably right. I'll put him on the guest list, and just enclose a handwritten note with the invitation. I think I'll put godmother on the announcements list though.

@urbaneca

Sounds like a good plan