Very Overwhelmed!

Tchavon1984

I have a vision for my wedding... If I close my eyes I see it. But for whatever reason I cant seem to put it all together... I know how I want the table numbers to look but cant seem to find all the things I need. I'm lost when it comes to flowers and how I want my centerpieces to look and now I have things I may not need ( so I've wasted money) and the list goes on. I've tried to just take a step back from the wedding planning just to regain some sanity but as soon as I jump back into it I just get a little more overwhelmed than before.

 Has anyone been thru this and what did you do to kinda get ur mind back to where it needed to be to successfully plan your wedding?

VarunaTT

Start looking through Pinterest for things that look like/are similar to what you want and reading the tutorials that go with them.  Somebody has usually already figured out the DIY for your vision.

MearB

Also if your budget allows maybe you can talk to a wedding planner/coordinator to get your ideas together.

Tchavon1984

We are already over budget so I dont know. Im more then capable of doing it. I just think bcuz its my wedding the stress of it being perfect is getting to me

thejucheidea

Wait... you still have a year to go? You probably need to step back for a few months and take a breath.

Tchavon1984

thejucheidea said:

Wait... you still have a year to go? You probably need to step back for a few months and take a breath.

We are trying to get the wedding stuff out of the way by june bcuz we have some other things that will be going on that will take a lot of time away from planning. If I know its taken care of then I wont have to stress about it before the wedding

thejucheidea

Tchavon1984 said:

Wait... you still have a year to go? You probably need to step back for a few months and take a breath.

We are trying to get the wedding stuff out of the way by june bcuz we have some other things that will be going on that will take a lot of time away from planning. If I know its taken care of then I wont have to stress about it before the wedding

But you need to recognize you're overwhelmed and take a break before wedding planning drives you up the wall. It's worth taking a breather.

Tchavon1984

thejucheidea said:

Tchavon1984 said:

thejucheidea said:

Wait... you still have a year to go? You probably need to step back for a few months and take a breath.

We are trying to get the wedding stuff out of the way by june bcuz we have some other things that will be going on that will take a lot of time away from planning. If I know its taken care of then I wont have to stress about it before the wedding

But you need to recognize you're overwhelmed and take a break before wedding planning drives you up the wall. It's worth taking a breather.

True... I really thought my family would come together and kinda help me. Im very vocal about all that needs to be done but they kinda stand there with their finger in their nose and dribble falling out their mouth. Im going to try to stick to one thing once I accomplish it move on to the next... Im taking on too many things at once

buttercup1958

True... I really thought my family would come together and kinda help me. Im very vocal about all that needs to be done but they kinda stand there with their finger in their nose and dribble falling out their mouth. Im going to try to stick to one thing once I accomplish it move on to the next... Im taking on too many things at once


That is very rude and mean to talk about your family like that. Maybe if you spent less time being "vocal" you could possibly get things done? Its your wedding so you are suppose to plan it. If your family/friends offer to help, that's great! If not, carry on and just do one thing at a time like you said.

Tchavon1984

Whoa chill its called a joke! If I felt it was something that would have my family members in tears I wouldnt say it.... And I dont spend all my time being vocal if they ask me what I have to do I tell them. Like I said I "thought" my family would be there... they havent been Im not tripping bcuz I have to get it done and like I said before I just have to take on less tasks... thanks for ur input though

thejucheidea

My family and my fiance didn't help me with anything -- I was completely on my own. I took care of the important things at first (venue, photographer, organist, dress) then took a few months off to collect myself. We had a simple wedding because I saw no reason to go overboard with DIY or a 'vision' -- we saw it as just a celebration of our union that didn't require some bank-breaking, sanity-destroying party. It's really just one day, and if one day is devastating you mentally, seriously, you need to step back and look carefully at the situation to determine what needs to change or be dropped to help you focus on your future marriage rather than a party.

Rebl90

Tchavon1984 said:

Tchavon1984 said:

Wait... you still have a year to go? You probably need to step back for a few months and take a breath.

We are trying to get the wedding stuff out of the way by june bcuz we have some other things that will be going on that will take a lot of time away from planning. If I know its taken care of then I wont have to stress about it before the wedding

But you need to recognize you're overwhelmed and take a break before wedding planning drives you up the wall. It's worth taking a breather.

True... I really thought my family would come together and kinda help me. Im very vocal about all that needs to be done but they kinda stand there with their finger in their nose and dribble falling out their mouth. Im going to try to stick to one thing once I accomplish it move on to the next... Im taking on too many things at once

It's not their job to help you, and frankly, I'm surprised you would say something like that on here since I'm sure you're aware of the general attitude towards brides expecting family and friends to help. And if you have 11 months to go then you have plenty of time, there is a lot that you cannot do until you get closer to your date. I agree with the PPs, try to take a step back for a little bit, even a week off will give you fresh eyes and new inspiration.  You probably are trying to take on too many things at once, which is so easy to do with weddings, so it sounds like you are on the right track with trying to stick to one thing at a time. It's a difficult thing to do, but it will really help.

Anyone else tired of the same lack of helping complaints? Its like freaking groundhog day here...