I have a big family and only plan to invite the females invited to my shower from my friends and family members. I also am fortunate enough to have a wonderful and supportive church family. A few of them are invited to the wedding but it's the ones who are not invited that are very excited and even talking about cooking for my shower. Should I invite them? My MOH is planning it at the church and I know it's rude, but how do I tell them that they're not invited?