XP: Unity Candle Lighting

hlvonb

My fiancé and I are doing a unity candle. He wants to have his mom and my mom light the 2 smaller candles. (His mom would light one and my mom would light one). We would follow our mom up (me behind my mom, him behind his) and then once the smaller ones were lit, we would take them and together light the big one.

My question: Is this how it is normally done? Is it a problem doing it this way?

misshart00

Our mothers lit the smaller ones. But they did it at the very beginning, before I even walked in.

hlvonb

@alisonmarie658

@misshart00

Thanks! I will talk to him about doing it before the ceremony starts.

Do you think it would be wrong or bad to do it the way he had suggested?

vt&dt

I don't think it would be wrong or bad to do it that way, but it could be a little awkward - how would you get behind your mothers after they had been seated and you two were at the front of the church?

If you wanted to have the mothers light the side candles right before you and your FI took them to light the big one, I think they could just walk up and do that.  I don't know if you need to/how you would get behind them and follow them to the candle.

hlvonb

vt&dt said:

I don't think it would be wrong or bad to do it that way, but it could be a little awkward - how would you get behind your mothers after they had been seated and you two were at the front of the church?

If you wanted to have the mothers light the side candles right before you and your FI took them to light the big one, I think they could just walk up and do that.  I don't know if you need to/how you would get behind them and follow them to the candle.

@vt&dt

There is room for them to walk up to the candles (the candles would be behind the pastor sitting on the altar (hard to describe without showing a picture) and they could walk up. There's steps so when they were on the 2nd or 3rd step, we would then start going up and therefore end up behind them. Hope that made sense

vt&dt

hlvonb said:

vt&dt said:

I don't think it would be wrong or bad to do it that way, but it could be a little awkward - how would you get behind your mothers after they had been seated and you two were at the front of the church?

If you wanted to have the mothers light the side candles right before you and your FI took them to light the big one, I think they could just walk up and do that.  I don't know if you need to/how you would get behind them and follow them to the candle.

@vt&dt

There is room for them to walk up to the candles (the candles would be behind the pastor sitting on the altar (hard to describe without showing a picture) and they could walk up. There's steps so when they were on the 2nd or 3rd step, we would then start going up and therefore end up behind them. Hope that made sense

Gottcha.  That makes a LOT more sense... I had this funny image in my mind of a bride and groom awkwardly trying to get behind their mothers.

I think either way you and your FI want to do it works - one pro of waiting for the mothers to light their candles and doing the whole thing at once: it will take more time and you're less likely to have as much of a wait after the lighting of the candle is done for the music to finish.

hlvonb

vt&dt said:

hlvonb said:

vt&dt said:

I don't think it would be wrong or bad to do it that way, but it could be a little awkward - how would you get behind your mothers after they had been seated and you two were at the front of the church?

If you wanted to have the mothers light the side candles right before you and your FI took them to light the big one, I think they could just walk up and do that.  I don't know if you need to/how you would get behind them and follow them to the candle.

@vt&dt

There is room for them to walk up to the candles (the candles would be behind the pastor sitting on the altar (hard to describe without showing a picture) and they could walk up. There's steps so when they were on the 2nd or 3rd step, we would then start going up and therefore end up behind them. Hope that made sense

Gottcha.  That makes a LOT more sense... I had this funny image in my mind of a bride and groom awkwardly trying to get behind their mothers.

I think either way you and your FI want to do it works - one pro of waiting for the mothers to light their candles and doing the whole thing at once: it will take more time and you're less likely to have as much of a wait after the lighting of the candle is done for the music to finish.

@vt&dt

Yeah. Lol. That's a good pro too because I like the song we're using lol