Ok so my FMIL gave us an option of using her church halls for the ceremony and another for reception for absolutely free. Problem is its an hours away from home and MY family, and would have to be a dry wedding due to church rules. Im fine with that and hes fine with that. His family always comes our way for things why is the world cant mine. Im feeling so unloved and hurt. Ive only talked to one person so far about this and we both had the same sad thoughts. My family are all drinkers and I dont think they would have a good time without drinks. Thats just the way they are. But also the person I spoke to was ok with it but voiced concern about the rest of the family not wanting to drive an hour away! REALLY?! Its sad because in my head I thought the same thing. Question is....Should I change the fact that im saving 4000 dollars to ensure they come to my wedding? They should want to be there no matter what am I right? I dont really want someone there who feels like they have to. I dont want someone there who will think my wedding sucks because they had to drive an hour and theres no alcohol. What are your opinions? Should I do a take it or leave it kind of thing or cater to what they want to ensure they come?