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mrsjohnbarret said:

I'm stuck doing my invitations. I have most of the wording complete and have figured out who is hosting and who should be on the invitations. My problem lies with my gift registration. my fiance and I are paying for our wedding all by our selves. We are kind of counting on our guests gifts of cash to pay for our honey moon. Through other blog Q/A I've discovered  "mybridalbank.com" which I'm super excited about. The problem still remains of how to word it in our invitations. We are very blessed in the fact that we have everything we need to furnish our home so we really don't need the traditional gifts. I don't want it coming across as us begging for money and I don't want to reject or return our guest heart felt gifts. I need your help. Please tell me how to word my registration with mybridalbank.com.

You don't mention gifts with your invitations at all. Period. And asking for cash is always in poor taste. Those websites for cash donations in lieu of registries are disgusting. If you want cash, have a small registry or none. People will get the hint that you want cash. 

CMGragain

Oh, dear.  You are going to get a lot of negative comments about honeymoon funds.  Most posters, myself included, think they are rude.  It is always rude to ask for money.  There is no polite way to do it.
I second the pp's suggestion of having a very small gift registry, or none at all.  If someone asks you about it, THEN you may say, "Oh we are saving up for something special."
It is a very bad idea to count on gift money to pay for a honeymoon.  You may not get as much as you hope - then, what?  I guarantee that some of your guests will be offended by your honeymoon fund idea, whether they tell you,or not.
Have the honeymoon that you can afford now, even if it is only a couple of nights in a nearby city.  You can always go on a special trip later on.  That's what we did.

mrsjohnbarret

A simple "thats not a good idea" would have been fine.  I'm working on a wedding with 60 guest and $3000. When I said we are counting on the guest for the honeymoon, we need help with $90 cost of the hotel.  I asked for help because this is my first and only wedding and have no one to help me with it other than my fiance. Thank you very much for your help. In the future you should think about how mean you sound when giving advice. You don't have to be rude! I don't need anymore help thank you vary much

mrsjohnbarret

Thank you for your help

chibiyui

No one was "rude". Non-sugar coated honesty isn't rude.

Best of luck in your remaining planning.

CMGragain

The was no point in deleting your original post.  You were quoted.  Deleting a post is very rude, and it only attract attention to the post.
I hope we saved you from making a big mistake.

JoanE2012

mrsjohnbarret said:

A simple "thats not a good idea" would have been fine.  I'm working on a wedding with 60 guest and $3000. When I said we are counting on the guest for the honeymoon, we need help with $90 cost of the hotel.  I asked for help because this is my first and only wedding and have no one to help me with it other than my fiance. Thank you very much for your help. In the future you should think about how mean you sound when giving advice. You don't have to be rude! I don't need anymore help thank you vary much

OP - When you delete or change the title of your post, it draws more people to it.  Like me.

That said, my DH and I paid for our wedding too.  Many couples do.  We also still paid for our own honeymoon.  If you want something, save for it.  Delay your honeymoon if you have to.  But don't expect others to pay for your honeymoon.

doeydo

My FI and I our having our first (and hopefully only) wedding and are planning and paying for it ourselves.  That does not mean it is okay to rely on your guests or anyone else for money towards your wedding and/or honeymoon.