NOT about marrying my fiance. About having a normal wedding.
I just can't seem to justify spending thousands of dollars on a party to satisfy everyone else. I'm all for eloping and throwing a party afterwards but my fiance isn't sold on the idea and I don't want him to regret anything since it's OUR day, not just mine.
So instead we were thinking of having a small, intimate ceremony with immediate family (mom, dad, siblings, grandparents) and best friends. Then have a party for everyone and have food, open bar, DJ etc. and just spend maybe $5k on that and a couple hundred for ceremony.
We already have a deposit down on a venue ($850) but can get 1/2 back as long as they can re-book it, which I'm sure they would. Then instead of the place we were going to have it at just rent a hall or something at an Elks club/VFW and just decorate it however we want.
Advice please!!!! I just want to marry my fiance and then party afterwards.
Re: I'm having second thoughts
Remember, you need just a bride, groom and officiant to get married (once you have the license)... the rest is fluff. As long as you and your fiance are in synch and happy about your plans, you'll be all set.
Good luck with planning and executing the wedding YOU want. Cheers!
If you've got $5,000 for a party, as PP said, just make that your wedding budget. But do it all at once.
[QUOTE]NOT about marrying my fiance. About having a normal wedding. <strong> I just can't seem to justify spending thousands of dollars on a party to satisfy everyone else</strong>. I'm all for eloping and throwing a party afterwards but my fiance isn't sold on the idea and I don't want him to regret anything since it's OUR day, not just mine. <strong>So instead we were thinking of having a small, intimate ceremony</strong> with immediate family (mom, dad, siblings, grandparents) and best friends. <strong>Then have a party for everyone and have food, open bar, DJ etc. </strong>and just spend maybe $5k on that and a couple hundred for ceremony. We already have a deposit down on a venue ($850) but can get 1/2 back as long as they can re-book it, which I'm sure they would. Then instead of the place we were going to have it at just rent a hall or something at an Elks club/VFW and just decorate it however we want. Advice please!!!! I just want to marry my fiance and then party afterwards.
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I responded on another board to this same post (please put XP if you post the same question across boards). And I'll say again, how is having a smaller ceremony saving you money?? You're still planning the big party. Why not just have everyone come to the ceremony then? Am I missing something???