We're having a ceremony and reception at a barn in NH in August with less than 120 people. My fiance has a huge number of relatives (like more than 40) that live in Mexico. Our plan was to keep the NH wedding as small as possible and have a second reception for these family members in Mexico in April. We're doing this for several reasons: 1) I have serious anxiety and just thinking of more than 120 people gives me an anxiety attack. 2) not all of the Mexican family members can afford the trip to New Hampshire. 3) The later reception will allow us to celebrate with all of them and not just some of them that can make the trip.
Is this rude at all? I don't see another way around it. I thought it was a reasonable way to celebrate with everyone in our family and make it manageable for us. My fiance is very worried about his mother getting angry because we are not sending them invitations to the wedding in August.
I was thinking of sending an invitation that said "We hope you will celebrate with us from afar on August 16. Please join us for a reception on April X, 2015 in Vera Cruz, Mexico." Is this appropriate? Would you approach it differently?