Dilemma

yg4201

At risk of getting some negative comments! Our venue requires a final count three weeks before the wedding the last weekend in July. That date is July 4, so I'm setting a final count date of July 1 to be safe. Our situation (most of my family coming internationally from across the ocean and his coming from all corners of the US) make it so that we have a current invite list of 120 for a hopeful 80. Taking into account that quite a few won't be able to make it (via transatlantic flights), we have a B-list. I know! I know! A lot of you don't like this idea, but we can't invite more, and if more than 50% of my family can't come, then I'd like to have more people from my side come. 

I'm currently wording my invitations and response cards. I need to have a date for when to RSVP by. I will be sending out the international invitations in March (it seems they won't purchase flights or hotels without one even though I've sent a STD). When should I send the US ones and what date(s) should I put as my RSVP by? 

Jen4948

Well, don't B-list, but for your venue, I'd use July 1.

tabathafaye

You should consider this before you B-list: What happens if people from the A List who declined find out that they are actually able to come, after the B-List people accept? What do you tell the A list people? "So sorry I gave your spot away?"

Nope.

JoanE2012

yg4201 said:

At risk of getting some negative comments! Our venue requires a final count three weeks before the wedding the last weekend in July. That date is July 4, so I'm setting a final count date of July 1 to be safe. Our situation (most of my family coming internationally from across the ocean and his coming from all corners of the US) make it so that we have a current invite list of 120 for a hopeful 80. Taking into account that quite a few won't be able to make it (via transatlantic flights), we have a B-list. I know! I know! A lot of you don't like this idea, but we can't invite more, and if more than 50% of my family can't come, then I'd like to have more people from my side come. 

I'm currently wording my invitations and response cards. I need to have a date for when to RSVP by. I will be sending out the international invitations in March (it seems they won't purchase flights or hotels without one even though I've sent a STD). When should I send the US ones and what date(s) should I put as my RSVP by? 

Don't B-list.  Imagine how those people feel.....not good enough to make the first cut, but good enough to be seat fillers when the A list can't make it.