Tapping glass for a couple to kiss at reception

Kathy Kuhns

Does anyone have any alternatives to people tapping their glass to make a couple kiss at the wedding reception?

Maggie0829

No because I hate that tradition. Do you want it to occur? Or do you not want people clinking their glasses but still want to provide them with something to get you to kiss?

JaxInBlue

I'm with Maggie - DH and I kissed on the first clink, brushed noses the second time (when people timed everything to catch us with our mouths full) and then ignored subsequent attempts - but there weren't many.  I've been to weddings were the couple wanted people to sing or recite part of a poem, with mixed success and interest from guests.

climbingsingle

Ugh. That's the worst. I plan to have a bag of marbles with me. If anyone taps their glass for us to kiss, they're getting a marble to the forehead. 

MyNameIsNot

I hate this tradition.  We avoided it by simply ignoring it.  

If you don't want to do it, don't do it.  All the alternatives (making people sing, putting money in a jar, etc.) are even more obnoxious than the original and often rude.  

Jen4948

I hate this too.

doeydo

I've never even seen it done.  At one wedding I went to people wrote down something that one would have to do to get the couple to kiss (for example, they would have to sing a song).  So anytime throughout the night someone could volunteer, if they wanted, to pick out of the bowl and do whatever it said.  Also, I have seen on a wedding show, I think, people ringing bells to make the couple kiss.  That said, I don't think you have to do anything to substitute the glass clinking tradition.

AddieCake

I hate it and all the alternatives. Kiss whenever you want.

Cookie Pusher

FI and I hate the glass tapping/kissing thing! I joked with him once (after a few cocktails) that if people started doing that at our wedding, I'd either pretend to slap him (slapstick comedy style) or something equally silly. More likely than not, we're just going to ignore it should it happen. I've heard of people using bells to signal the desire for the couple to kiss. (Or tell your caterer to only use Solo cups - no clinking!)

acloutier1

I went to a wedding last year where the brie and groom wrote down the names of all couples who were attending their wedding and before they would kiss they drew a name out of a bag and that couple had to kiss in an interesting way that the bride and groom needed to copy. 

It was kind of cute considering the overall annoyingness of clinking glasses constantly.

BlueBirdMB

I think it's cute, but nobody did it at our wedding… and I was really surprised because my grandfather loves to bother people with the clinking glasses. 

abbyj700

The bell idea would be a cute alternative if you are truly looking for something a little different.

My family will surely do it all night at our wedding - and we'll be more than happy to oblige. :-)

Jen4948

I hate the whole idea of "kiss on command."  Kissing each other isn't the only thing the couple wants to do after the ceremony-and they don't necessarily want to do it in the presence of others with hooting, catcalling, and other egging on...especially since they need to greet their guests and thank them for coming, and if these are people who have traveled a long way or they don't see often, they need to offer them really gracious greetings and thanks.  Not to mention that they might want to dance and just otherwise have fun without the pressure to kiss each other.

missmo14

Ditto @Jen4948 im not a huge fan of PDA.... even the ceremony kiss in front of everybody makes me feel a bit awkward. We wont be obliging the clinking glasses or providing bells for the kiss on demand.

firebabe6519

I cannot stand this tradition. FI and I are not big PDA fans. Besides, its so annoying to hear clinking when you're trying to talk to someone or trying to eat.

mrsbanany

I can't tell if you don't like it or if you want something other than clicking the glasses to ask for it, so here are two answers.

I HATE this tradition, even more than throwing the garter which I find repulsive.  Thankfully, we went to my FI's sister's wedding and were able to see how often his side of the family did that and it happened about twice. Which in my opinion is too many. I will be ignoring it completely.

If you like this tradition, I have seen a ton of stuff on Pinterest. I don't remember what they were because like the tradition I also ignored anything about it on Pinterest. But I am sure if you search Pinterest for it you can find some cute and creative ideas. Good luck!! 

clg1213

I share the general dislike and recently discussed it with FI when a catalog featured the kissing bells. . FI thinks I'm taking too much of the fun and tradition away (he also wants the tosses, including the garter-guy putting it on the bouquet girl....I have always hated the concept, even without that added uncomfortable situation). Not sure yet how we'll resolve the conflict....I "won" on venue and therefore went with the time of year he preferred (and negotiated us a free room on our 1y since that was a point FI cited in favor of the other location)...but there's not much left I can trade!! P.S. We make big decisions just fine. No need to worry about the conflicts in taste being a marriage roadblock....in fact, it is often really helpful to work on seeing different sides of a question.

clg1213

I share the general dislike and recently discussed it with FI when a catalog featured the kissing bells. . FI thinks I'm taking too much of the fun and tradition away (he also wants the tosses, including the garter-guy putting it on the bouquet girl....I have always hated the concept, even without that added uncomfortable situation). Not sure yet how we'll resolve the conflict....I "won" on venue and therefore went with the time of year he preferred (and negotiated us a free room on our 1y since that was a point FI cited in favor of the other location)...but there's not much left I can trade!! P.S. We make big decisions just fine. No need to worry about the conflicts in taste being a marriage roadblock....in fact, it is often really helpful to work on seeing different sides of a question.

chibiyui

I've thought about getting an inflatable D20. Roll a natural 20 for us to kiss.....

JennyColada

@chibiyui, love the nerdy idea!