Uneven Parties?

caresquared

So here's the deal, before we got engaged, my fiancee and I always talked about our wedding and pretty much decided that we would both have two people in our parties each. Well, that was when I thought my sisters weren't interested in being PART of another wedding. I just assumed they were all over it and would rather attend my wedding instead of being in it. Well now that we're engaged, I've found out that all THREE of my sisters would LOVE to be in the wedding. And because they're my best friends, i would LOVE for them to be in it as well! But my fiancee is still set on just two for him. There's really only two people that he would WANT to be by his side, and I'm totally okay with that and would never want to force him to just pick someone to make the parties even. What's worse is that I would LOVE for my niece to be a Jr. bridesmaid, so that adds another. Personally, I'm totally cool with having more BM's than GM's, but I wanted to get the opinions of other people as I have not been to many weddings. Would it look totally bad to be uneven? Is this some kind of foux pas? Thanks ladies!

Maggie0829

Uneven sides is not a big deal and is actually becoming more of the norm.  H and I had uneven sides. Look at the picture below.  Does that look bad to you?  Also, I would ditch the "Junior" part for your niece.  She has the same job as the rest of your BMs and that is to show up in the attire chosen and smile for pictures.  Just because she may be younger does not mean that you need to add the junior label.

KatWAG

caresquared said:

So here's the deal, before we got engaged, my fiancee and I always talked about our wedding and pretty much decided that we would both have two people in our parties each. Well, that was when I thought my sisters weren't interested in being PART of another wedding. I just assumed they were all over it and would rather attend my wedding instead of being in it. Well now that we're engaged, I've found out that all THREE of my sisters would LOVE to be in the wedding. And because they're my best friends, i would LOVE for them to be in it as well! But my fiancee is still set on just two for him. There's really only two people that he would WANT to be by his side, and I'm totally okay with that and would never want to force him to just pick someone to make the parties even. What's worse is that I would LOVE for my niece to be a Jr. bridesmaid, so that adds another. Personally, I'm totally cool with having more BM's than GM's, but I wanted to get the opinions of other people as I have not been to many weddings. Would it look totally bad to be uneven? Is this some kind of foux pas? Thanks ladies!

Gahhhhh, I don't understand why this is an issue. You pick your side, Fi picks his side. If it ends up even, then great. If  not, oh well. Stop being so concerned about your pictures and think more about including your nearest and dearest people.

If you killed someone, would your sisters help you bury the body at 3am? If so, include them. If not, being a guest is an honor also.

Also, Jr bridesmaid is a fake title. You are either a BM or you're not. It's kind of like being a little bit pregnant, it just doesn't work,

cowgirl8238

I will have uneven sides in my wedding and it doesn't bother me one bit.  I am not sure why so many people get caught up in this "the sides have to be even" train of thought.  If you want your sisters to be in your WP then ask them.  If your FI only wants two people that is fine also.  At the end of the day your WP has no bearing on whether or not you're married.  Also I agree with the others please don't use the title junior bridesmaid title.

Besides pictures what are your other concerns with having as uneven WP?  For seating just do a sweetheart table and let the WP sit with their dates and friends/families.  For the procession you can have them walk alone, or escort family members, or just walk with one another.  There is really no way that you should need to feel stressed about this.  Good luck and happy planning!

Edit for missing letter

AddieCake

We had uneven sides. This is such a non-issue. 

Jen4948

Uneven sides are fine and normal.

hlpopper

I think uneven sides are fun. Who says you have to balance out the amount of people. I'm having twice as many bridesmaids in my wedding than my fiance is of groomsmen. It's about picking the people who love and support you and who you can rely on to be there for you on the biggest day of your life. Don't fret about an uneven party. Rock out to it and make it memorable

beachbabe7885

I had the same worry, but I think it's one day so just do what you want!

caresquared

Thanks for all the responses. I feel better about it now. And I guess I apologize for such a dumb question? I've literally been to like, 3 weddings my whole life and even those were when I was young...and back then all I ever saw were symmetrical sides. I'm also in the very beginning stages of planning, so I suppose i'm not "up" on what is an issue and what is not.