So imagine a clock. My work is at 1 o'clock. FI's job is in the dead center of the clock. We absolutely can't afford anything in the areas of 11, 12, 1, 2. So I'm looking to find a house at 10 or 3. Hopefully you're still following me here....FI thinks I'm being unreasonable for shutting down all these houses he keeps finding at "7 o'clock".
Grrrr it's so tough because our money would go much further at "7" but I refuse to make that drive. I will compromise on just about anything EXCEPT spending 55 minutes commuting each way. Sure, he wants me to do it because he knows he works in the middle and will never have more than 20 minutes no matter where we choose. I realize that jobs change but I spent the last year job searching (I was employed just looking for better) and literally every job in my field is in the "12-2" area. I also realize plenty of people drive that far every day but I am just not someone who can handle that, I already dislike my 35 minute commute.
I know at the end of the day he wants me to be happy and he would never force me into anything I didn't want, but I just wish he would quit it with the guilt trips about what a better house we could have if I would just suck it up.