Does your SO cook?

JCbride2015

I love to cook.  It's relaxing and creative for me.  For me, a fun afternoon would be planning out dinner for the week.

Fi is currently trying to learn.  It's adorable.  But it's getting frustrating because he'll tell me he's taking care of dinner, but then ask me detailed questions every three minutes.  I suggested we cook together, but he wanted to do it by himself (he's made this dish before).

I think my pre-existing anxiety issue is causing a lot of this, but I can feel my annoyance threshold getting filled right up.  I have to keep stepping back and tell myself he's learning, I got good at this through practice, and he's really trying.  And he takes such pride when the end result is good!  

Anybody have a similar experience trying to help out an SO who is sort of hopeless in the kitchen?  Who mostly cooks in your house?

firebabe6519

My FI is a classically trained chef so I have no complaints about him in the kitchen! Lol

Hopefully your SO will catch on soon! Good luck!

JCbride2015

firebabe6519 said:

My FI is a classically trained chef so I have no complaints about him in the kitchen! Lol Hopefully your SO will catch on soon! Good luck!

@firebabe6519 Wait, and he's a firefighter too?  Or am I mixing you up with somebody else?

firebabe6519

Yep he is. I have the perfect guy! He went to school to be a chef. Then fell fell in love with the firehouse. He cooks and cleans and sows and even knows how to cut / style hair! I'm sooooooo spoiled!

erinlin25

He can cook, but I do most of the cooking or when he cooks it is when we usually cook together which is always fun.  He does make a killer baked ziti and that one is all him!  I was never much of a cook.  My mom would always ask how was I going to find a husband if I do not know how to cook, lol. My response was I would find someone who likes pasta, and grilled cheese sandwiches... to my luck, my husband is "vegetarian" although he is more of a "carb-etarian" unless I make him eat a salad or vegetables with his meals.  So no joke, grilled cheese and pasta are his favorites.  That is when I knew he was the perfect guy for me, haha.  But now we cook more and have had fun learning to make new dishes together. 

natswild

FI and I compete to see who's better. He can cook a gourmet meal on a camp stove, no joke!

chibiyui

FI likes to cook, and he's pretty good at it. I usually like cooking. We've hardly had dinner together at all since before Thanksgiving because I had so many night sifts this Christmas. When I work days I usually cook because I am home first, if I work a swing shift he'll cook.

SmileDamnit

I might starve (read: exist solely on cheese & crackers) if it weren't for my FI . Kidding, as I am a decent (at best) cook…but I derive absolutely zero pleasure in it. So, I'm extremely grateful that he not only loves to cook, but is quite good at it, to boot. 

(note that the 10 extra lbs I now need to drop before the dress fitting would disagree with the "grateful" statement)

HisGirlFriday13

DH is actually a wonderful cook, and I'm really, really lucky.

I do more of the cooking in the relationship, though, just because I've always liked to cook, and I'm better at it.

jenna8984

Mine sounds just like yours! He always wants to try, yet asks me a million questions, but then gets mad when I try to step in and take over. I once texted him when I was leaving work and said can you cook the rice and I'll do the rest when I get home. He actually said how do I make rice? Oh brother! And I have to cook all the meat on the grill in summer because I make it nice and rare and juicy and he leaves it on until it's a burnt hockey puck haha. 

When I left for 6 days to visit friends across the country, I specifically made him 12 home cooked freezer meals so that he wouldn't have to eat Burger King and Ramen  

jdluvr06

FI cooks more than I do.

lyndausvi

Yep. All the time.

I should mention he is a chef by profession.

Maggie0829

You mean besides frozen pizza, canned soup and fried eggs? Yeah, not so much. I actually had to talk him through making Kraft Mac and Cheese.

WinstonsGirl

Stupid knot is eating my post.  I usually cook, since I'm home first, though DH helps if he's home.  He does do weekend and holiday breakfast crepes too, which is his domain.  I'm not allowed to help, even with cleaning up after.  I'm ok with that.  

KeptInStitches

Neither one of us are fantastic cooks, but we can both make our way around the kitchen.

AddieCake

My husband can cook a few things. He is in charge of any grilling and of making tacos. I do the rest of the cooking.

Fran1985

He cooks 90% of the time and is really good! 

KPBM89

My mom is a chef so I like to do a lot of the cooking and make more creative meals/ stuff I've learned from her over the years.  FI loves cooking, too, but it's usually me cooking the majority of the food and him cooking whatever meat he wants to go with what I made (I'm vegetarian and he isn't).  

pumpkinsandturkeys

FI tries, and he has never made anything terrible or inedible, but he's definitely at the far end of the amateur side. When he cooks, it tends to be the same thing over and over, and something very simple -- stir fry, pasta, etc. He has a hard time being creative with food and flavours and tends to stick with the basics and what he knows. So, if I want something different, I end up cooking or we eat out haha

JennyColada

I've graduated culinary school and my Fi studied from Thomas Keller. So we make a pretty good foodie team.

He tends to do the nightly cooking though. I just tend to do cooking for parties (his style is more gourmet while mine focuses on family style).

JCbride2015

Wow, sounds like some of you are really lucky!  Fi deserves credit for trying.  He was making stir fry and poor guy just could not get the broccoli to cook.  But I helped and in the end it came out really yummy.  

firebabe6519 said:

Yep he is. I have the perfect guy! He went to school to be a chef. Then fell fell in love with the firehouse. He cooks and cleans and sows and even knows how to cut / style hair! I'm sooooooo spoiled!

I'm pretty sure you really do have the perfect guy!  He sounds great!

jenna8984 said:

Mine sounds just like yours! He always wants to try, yet asks me a million questions, but then gets mad when I try to step in and take over. I once texted him when I was leaving work and said can you cook the rice and I'll do the rest when I get home. He actually said how do I make rice? Oh brother! And I have to cook all the meat on the grill in summer because I make it nice and rare and juicy and he leaves it on until it's a burnt hockey puck haha. 

When I left for 6 days to visit friends across the country, I specifically made him 12 home cooked freezer meals so that he wouldn't have to eat Burger King and Ramen  

Yeah, Fi had to ask me how to make rice.  He thought you actually needed a fancy rice cooker.  But he is the grillmaster in our house.  He's actually great at making steaks perfectly medium rare!

Maggie0829 said:

You mean besides frozen pizza, canned soup and fried eggs? Yeah, not so much. I actually had to talk him through making Kraft Mac and Cheese.

This sounds exactly like Fi.  He actually cannot make Kraft.  Although I think part of that is pure laziness-- he wants me to make it for him!

pinkcow13

firebabe6519 - Wow, he does sound like the perfect guy! Nope, FI does not cook. Unless you count frozen pizza, or hot dogs. I love to cook though, so it's fine. Sometimes though we will make meals together, such as a homemade pizza. I hate to do laundry with a passion, and when I lived on my own I would literally buy new outfits or undies just so I could let another day go without having to do laundry. So he does all our laundry - I'll take that

climbingsingle

FI likes to cook and he's really good at it. Most nights we cook together.

smalfrie19

FI cooks very well, but if its a new recipe that I made before him, he likes to act like he has NO CLUE and I do get frustrated with that. He is a good cook tho,  I think we split the cooking evenly, he makes great grilled cheese tho...and I am thinking of wheedling one out of him when he gets home 

afox007

pinkcow13 said:

firebabe6519 - Wow, he does sound like the perfect guy! Nope, FI does not cook. Unless you count frozen pizza, or hot dogs. I love to cook though, so it's fine. Sometimes though we will make meals together, such as a homemade pizza. I hate to do laundry with a passion, and when I lived on my own I would literally buy new outfits or undies just so I could let another day go without having to do laundry. So he does all our laundry - I'll take that

This is us exactly. I used to but new clothes on my way to work now FI does laundry and I cook. Literally if it can't be made in a BBQ he can't do it. Luckily I love to cook and he loves my cooking. Over the summer I went away with my BFF for a weekend and had to buy him a BBQ b4 I left or him and his son would have starved!

hikebikebemerry

FI has come a looooong way with cooking.  (One of the best books he ever got his hand on was on the science of cooking ratios.)  He has come up with some inedible concoctions.  The main gems were: for my birthday, he made me a cake with avocado chocolate frosting- I have nothing against making avocado frosting, but he thought there was too much sugar in it (this is also when I learned that he had no idea what goes into frosting...), so he tried to just put agave and whatever else he thought went into frosting other than the things that actually go into frosting. This was the first time the he upset me so much that I cried- frosting is high on my priority list in life, apparently. And a "soup" that was rutabagas sitting in water that was basically sitting in diluted hot sauce and not fully cooked black beans.

He has gotten so much better with cooking!  He frequently bakes bread, so we rarely have to buy it and has gotten really into making delicousness in the dutch oven/ slow cooker.  This past year, the birthday cake he made was SO GOOD- and the frosting was awesome.

doeydo

Yup, he's the cook between us and when he makes dinner it's pretty good.  When I make dinner, which I do a few times a week, it is usually pasta, tacos, or something else that is easy for me to make.

KytchynWitche

We share the cooking pretty evenly. I am a great cook of everything except starches. 

Sauces? Awesome. 

Proteins? Fantastic. 

Veggies? No problem. 

Starches? OMG WHAT DID I DO?! 

I never get my starches right, so FI usually does that for me. 

He also makes a great stir-fry and a killer spaghetti sauce. And pizzas from scratch. 

Neither of us is trained, but I did consider culinary school (couldn't get the financing together) and am a total cooking-show whore. My idea of fun is reading a bunch of recipes for a dish and then doing my own thing altogether. FI lived alone for 7 or 8 years and had a fairly strict diet for a lot of that time because of his kidney, so he had to either learn to cook or die.

cruffino

He can cook a handful of things really well, but doesn't have a huge repertoire. I do most of the chef-ing around here.

lovesclimbing

I do most of the cooking and I'm a pretty good cook.  H is a really good cook too.  He always says he's bad, but he's the one who got me to like cooked vegetables.  Growing up, my mom would only put butter on them, so that's what I did living on my own.  But H puts in garlic and various spices and sometimes a couple little pieces of bacon in his green beans to add extra flavor.and they're SO GOOD!  And he loves grilling and making really good soups.

Jells2dot0

My DH is far superior than me in the kitchen. I have never proclaimed to be a cook and my skills top out at placing a pizza in the oven and making a quesadilla on the skillet.