All About herself Personal Attendant

swebber73110

It is my personal Attendants birthday the day AFTER my wedding day... Its her 25th and she is the type of person who makes life all about herself, no matter what...  She expects everyone to be all about her on her birthday, which she has made clear is at midnight on my big day.  I dont want to be rude to her, but how do I explain to her that I dont want to hear about her birthday on my wedding day?

lemken

Maybe get her a nice birthday present as her attendant's gift and let her know how much you appreciate her help so close to her birthday. Maybe if you acknowledge it, it will nip it in the butt right away and be done with it. Also, didn't she accept being your attendant? You had to ask, didn't you? If that's the case, it's a little silly that she would even talk about your birthday when she agreed to do this for you?

ameyer16

I think lemken's response was pretty good. I'd be careful not to come off as a bridezilla though. I get where you're coming from, but if you don't tread lightly you could ruin a friendship if you get upset with her. Even if she is an attention wh**, it sounds like she was important enough to you to ask her to be part of the wedding. Maybe at midnight have a celebratory drink with her and then go back to what you've been doing. You'll have a whole day. It won't spoil anything if you celebrate for ten minutes. Or I guess if it's really an issue, wrap things up by midnight if you think it will be enough time.

Also watch out on these boards even mentioning you have a PA. I've learned quickly on these boards that they'll eat you alive. Just a heads up.