Asking his two sisters to be bridesmaids?

hisnikkie

I am new to the area, and most of my friends live very far away and some I have lost touch with, I have a maid of honor and a bridesmaid, but I was considering the option of asking my fiances two sisters to be bridesmaids. We don't know eachother super well, because we don't see his family too much but we all get along great when we are all around. I've been told it should be the people "closest to you" but they are his sisters, and I would like to show a token of "I would like to get to know you more" sorta thing, since I don't have any sisters I am close to. Thoughts?

doeydo

I agree that your BMs should be those closest to you.  If you are close to any men, you could also ask them to be brides-men. Also, your FI can have his sisters on his side of the WP, if he wants.  

JaxInBlue

Agree with doeydo that your bridesmaids should be those you are close to, regardless of gender. I also think there is a risk in asking people you don't know well because it can lead to confusion and hurt feelings if everyone's expectations don't align. If your FI's sisters don't automatically come to mind when you like about your part of the wedding party, it's probably not the place for them; but that doesn't mean there is no place for them in the long run. Talk to your FI. His sisters could be groomswomen if the goal is simply to include them in a special role in your day. This might provide an opportunity for them to be included in more things - if they are interested - like dress shopping, getting ready day of, etc. You could also ask them to do a reading, or, if they are musically included, sing or play a piece of music so that they are included in the ceremony in more than a guest role.

AddieCake

Your heart is in the right place, and if you WANT to ask them, go ahead. I, personally, would not. You need to be cautious in your expectations if you do. A lot of people think being part of a wedding party will bring people together, be a chance to bond, etc, and then are sorely disappointed when it doesn't happen. It could happen, sure, but you shouldn't go in with the expectation that it will. 

There is nothing wrong with only having 2 bridesmaids. That's all I had, and I wouldn't have had it any other way b/c I chose ONLY the people closest to me. My husband had only one attendant as well b/c he chose ONLY the person closest to him. 

Jen4948

Are you close to his sisters?  If so, there's absolutely no reason why you can't ask them to be bridesmaids-or even your only bridesmaids.

AddieCake

She said she doesn't know them very well. 

hisnikkie

megan ty. I want to ask them because I am shifting my circle of friends as well, and would like to get closer to them. Like you, I will feel sort of weird, but Im absolutely sure they would both love to do it if asked.

ei34

Your sentiment is nice, if you'd really like to ask his two sisters you should.  I have always been friendly with my husband's two sisters, but I didn't ask them to be in my bridal party.  I went with my two sisters as co-MOHs and a very dear friend as bridesmaid...I wanted my absolute closest with me.  Of course, everyone is different- if it'd mean a lot to you to have your future SIL's as bridesmaids, then you should definitely ask them!

Maggie0829

If you want to get to know your FSIL's then why not ask them to grab some lunch or go out shopping or come over for dinner.  There are ways to get to know them and become closer with them besides asking them to be in your wedding party.

A lot of times when people ask others to be in their weddings to get to know them or become closer they have expectations that these women (or men) will help with wedding planning or help put together favors or all of that stuff, but in reality that doesn't always happen and then the bride gets upset because her plan really isn't working.

I think it is great that you want to get to know your FSIL's but you shouldn't use the wedding stuff as a way to do it, you should just get to know them without any of that "BM obligation" crap.

logana1

I asked my Fiance's sisters to be in my wedding party and he asked my brothers to be in his.  It's cute.  Granted I am very close with his family.  I'm in a similar situation where I moved from a different state and don't know many people; let alone have the time to make many friends.  So when I met him and his family, I made friends with his sisters.  It works for us and they are invited to the wedding either way.  Just seemed to make sense to me to ask them since I don't have sisters of my own or many close friends.