This shower nonsense is driving me crazy. A little background - this is my second wedding. I unfortunately married the wrong guy 10 years ago when I was 24. I registered and received lots of gifts.
So, now I'm getting married again - thankfully to the right guy :-P. I've been on my own for a long, long time. I have tons of stuff. My FI is 40 and owns a house. He's also been on his own for a long time. Between the two of us, we actually have too much.
First, my FMIL was insistent on throwing me a shower. I tried explaining to her that I really, really didn't want one. She's a doll and I love her, so I'm not going to die on this hill. I have a feeling that when I visit her in Florida, she will do something. Either a bridal tea or some sort of a shower with her friends.
Now my good friend is pressuring me to have a shower. She's great and I love her. But, she did some really tacky shit at her second wedding. She had a honeymoon fund. I actually planned on contributing to it (it was with a local travel agent) but right before her shower, my debit and checking account numbers were stolen and used overseas. My whole account was locked up with my bank for about a week. The day after her shower, she called to ask why my name wasn't on the list of people that contributed.
She has asked me 10 times if I want a shower. Every single time I tell her no. "Not even a honeyfund?" NO! I bean dip her every time, but she brings it up like once a week. Also, I have a MOH (and only a MOH). This friend knows this. Yet I feel like she's trying to step on my MOH's toes. She keeps asking about a bachelorette party too. Ugh. Can it just be September already????