365 Day Parties? Is this a Thing Now?!

PrettyGirlLost

I have seen several references on these boards to 365 Day parties?

WTF is this fresh hell?  Is this a thing now?

Why do people feel like everyone wants to constantly celebrate the fact that they are getting married? Guess what? No one really cares all that much

misshart00

I just completely don't understand a party to celebrate "hey, it's a year until we get married!" I would also want a 6 month one, a 1 month one, and probably a 1 week one.

cruffino

This reminds me of my fsil who held monthly birthday parties for her kids during their first year of life. No I'm not interested.

misshart00

cruffino said:

This reminds me of my fsil who held monthly birthday parties for her kids during their first year of life. No I'm not interested.

I'm totally missing out on gifts! DD just passed three months, so I'll need to make up for it.

Cookie Pusher

JCbride2015

I don't understand.  I have seen some Facebook posts like, "Oh look, it's a year until our wedding!" which doesn't bother me that much if the poster is not normally an over-sharer.  Fi and I are planning to go out to dinner on our "one year neg-a-versary."  It never occurred to me to have a party-- but hey, I still have time!

misshart00

JCBride2014 said:

I don't understand.  I have seen some Facebook posts like, "Oh look, it's a year until our wedding!" which doesn't bother me that much if the poster is not normally an over-sharer.  Fi and I are planning to go out to dinner on our "one year neg-a-versary."  It never occurred to me to have a party-- but hey, I still have time!

Neg-a-versary! I love it! I was trying to think of a name for it because it seemed like the opposite of an anniversary party.

Maggie0829

cruffino said:

This reminds me of my fsil who held monthly birthday parties for her kids during their first year of life. No I'm not interested.

Wtf? No, your child is not that fucking special.

misshart00

Maggie0829 said:

This reminds me of my fsil who held monthly birthday parties for her kids during their first year of life. No I'm not interested.

Wtf? No, your child is not that fucking special.

Yes she is! I demand more presents!

Cookie Pusher

JCBride2014 said:

I don't understand.  I have seen some Facebook posts like, "Oh look, it's a year until our wedding!" which doesn't bother me that much if the poster is not normally an over-sharer.  Fi and I are planning to go out to dinner on our "one year neg-a-versary."  It never occurred to me to have a party-- but hey, I still have time!

FI and I celebrate the anniversary of our engagement every year. Actually, we've celebrated that particular date every year since we started dating. Because FI is awesome and proposed on Pi Day, my favorite day of the year! Since it's a pretty commonly celebrated "holiday" among our nerd friends, no one bats an eye when I post pictures of the fancy pies I make for that day every year.

KeptInStitches

What the hell is a 365 day party? (Google it; no I don't want to.)

Cookie Pusher

KeptInStitches said:

What the hell is a 365 day party? (Google it; no I don't want to.)

It's apparently throwing a party 365 days before your wedding. From the thread this was from, I think it's for people who were never offered an engagement party, and felt they deserved to be celebrated over and over and over and over...

hikebikebemerry

I JUST FIGURED OUT HOW TO POST GIFS!! WHEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!

Cookie Pusher

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/comment/7074576/#Comment_7074576

The comment by frandoon started the 365 madness...

thisismynickname2

misshart00 said:

JCBride2014 said:

I don't understand.  I have seen some Facebook posts like, "Oh look, it's a year until our wedding!" which doesn't bother me that much if the poster is not normally an over-sharer.  Fi and I are planning to go out to dinner on our "one year neg-a-versary."  It never occurred to me to have a party-- but hey, I still have time!

Neg-a-versary! I love it! I was trying to think of a name for it because it seemed like the opposite of an anniversary party.

Yes! FI went out to dinner at the restaurant where our reception will be. I called it our "negative 1 anniversary" and called myself out on Fb for being a dork. I share next to nothing wedding related though so felt justified in posting

mimiphin

Cookie Pusher said:

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/comment/7074576/#Comment_7074576

The comment by frandoon started the 365 madness...

OH MY FUCKING GOD!!!!!!!!!!!
I am going to have nightmares about that thread!!!!!

mimiphin

Maggie0829, @AddieL73 and all the other Old Married Bitches out there, Thank you.

AddieCake

Yeah, no. 

It really IS a mystery why so many brides (and parents when that shoe fits) think everyone is going to be over-the-top excited for them to the point of wanting to make them the center of attention as much as possible. Sure, most friends and family members are excited for ya, but I have yet to meet a person who is actually fawning all over a bride and noticeably giddy about someone else's engagement and/or any parties associated with that. There must be some sort of wedding goggles out there that these brides are slipping on to think they see that in their friends and family. 

jenna8984

thisismynickname said:

JCBride2014 said:

I don't understand.  I have seen some Facebook posts like, "Oh look, it's a year until our wedding!" which doesn't bother me that much if the poster is not normally an over-sharer.  Fi and I are planning to go out to dinner on our "one year neg-a-versary."  It never occurred to me to have a party-- but hey, I still have time!

Neg-a-versary! I love it! I was trying to think of a name for it because it seemed like the opposite of an anniversary party.

Yes! FI went out to dinner at the restaurant where our reception will be. I called it our "negative 1 anniversary" and called myself out on Fb for being a dork. I share next to nothing wedding related though so felt justified in posting

That is pretty funny! We are getting married 11 months after the proposal so boo hoo to me that I don't get a neg-aversary! But as an inside joke we do celebrate the day we closed on our house each year and call it our hous-iversary! That first night we got the keys and didn't have furniture we "christened" the shower so now that's how we celebrate every July 28th hahahahaha

Chipmunk415

So is this like an un-birthday? Some of these folks seem to be in wonderland...

MrsDeRuyter87

*face palm*

artbyallie

Okay, so we celebrated a 'monthiversary' every month for our first year of marriage because we're dorks, and actually we still try to have a date around the same day every month, but we don't ask other people to get involved (well, except for the fact that we actually had a double date for our second full anniversary, but we treated in that case) and it's mostly to make sure we actually get at least one date night a month.

Inviting people to celebrate YOU just makes you an AW. Every time. I don't understand why people don't seem to get that. At least own your selfishness, y'know?

climbingsingle

cruffino said:

This reminds me of my fsil who held monthly birthday parties for her kids during their first year of life. No I'm not interested.

I had an former co-worker that did this. A cake for every month. WTF. That baby is 2 months old. It doesn't even know it has feet. 

The 365 day thing just sounds so stupid. 

PrettyGirlLost

ClimbingBrideNY said:

cruffino said:

This reminds me of my fsil who held monthly birthday parties for her kids during their first year of life. No I'm not interested.

I had an former co-worker that did this. A cake for every month. WTF. That baby is 2 months old. It doesn't even know it has feet. 

The 365 day thing just sounds so stupid. 

Oh for God's sakes!  I think elaborate 1st, 2nd, and sometimes 3rd year birthday parties for kids are ridiculous- themes, inviting a ton of people and small children, tons of decorations, etc.

The kids have no freaking clue wtf is going on and usually end up having meltdowns due to way too many people being in their face and passing them around and also missing nap time.  They are too young to even enjoy opening gifts. 

At those ages the parties are for the parents.

ETA: I think it's fine to have family parties with maybe a few close friends present, but I think the huge blow out bashes should be saved until the kids are old enough to actually know what is going on, are able to enjoy the party, and are old enough to actually have some friends, lol.

Chipmunk415

ClimbingBrideNY said:

cruffino said:

This reminds me of my fsil who held monthly birthday parties for her kids during their first year of life. No I'm not interested.

I had an former co-worker that did this. A cake for every month. WTF. That baby is 2 months old. It doesn't even know it has feet. 

The 365 day thing just sounds so stupid. 

Chipmunk's bs-meter thinks this is just a ploy for the mom to enjoy cake without "guilt." As a result, it is declared that moms who do this must take the place of the baby in the photo of cake all over the face and head. Friends invited to this kind of shindig can do the honors of "artfully arranging" said cake on the mother.

smalfrie19

I will be honest. D and I went to dinner to celebrate our "retroversary" but it was JUST dinner together..us two..we didn't exchange gifts...nothing.

Maggie0829

But what about those couples who get married less then a year after they get engaged?  It is not fair if they don't get a party as well so do they just have a "365 day minus however many days from that until their wedding day" party?

misshart00

Maggie0829 said:

But what about those couples who get married less then a year after they get engaged?  It is not fair if they don't get a party as well so do they just have a "365 day minus however many days from that until their wedding day" party?

I was only engaged 7 months. Maybe I need a do over so I can have all these parties.

PrettyGirlLost

misshart00 said:

But what about those couples who get married less then a year after they get engaged?  It is not fair if they don't get a party as well so do they just have a "365 day minus however many days from that until their wedding day" party?

I was only engaged 7 months. Maybe I need a do over so I can have all these parties.

OMFG your wedding totally wasn't valid!  You need a PPD do over. . . better get an ever bigger dress this time!

MrsDeRuyter87

Maggie0829 said:

But what about those couples who get married less then a year after they get engaged?  It is not fair if they don't get a party as well so do they just have a "365 day minus however many days from that until their wedding day" party?

What about a PPD for the 365 day party? That seems legit.

cupcait927

Shit, I better FI that we need to push out wedding out until next year so that we can have a 365 day party too! Wouldn't want to miss out on all of the super awesome, totally important to our marriage parties!